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June 17th, 2012, 12:29 AM
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So I told my mom and sister first that I am pregnant so I could get ideas on how to tell my husband and I told them not to say anything to anyone because he did not know yet. So I log on to facebook and right there it said that I was pregnant. How could they do this to my husband and I? It was far from right. All I have been doing is crying. How can your own flesh and blood do this to you? I have not told him because we are apart right now and I only get to see him once maybe twice a week. I was waiting to tell him in person. When I asked them about it they got mad at me and now I am no longer allowed to see my niece or nephew. They told me that my other children, my husband and I are dead to them. I am so upset about it and have been crying over it. I am lost now and have no support.
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June 17th, 2012, 04:35 PM
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For real? You and your family are dead to them? Because *they* did something tactless and mean and you called them on it?

That is so crazy I don't even know how to respond. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that kind of thing during a time that's supposed to be joyful for you. For what it's worth I think you are absolutely right to be upset that they posted your news all over Facebook knowing that you hadn't told your husband yet. That was horribly selfish of them.
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June 17th, 2012, 04:40 PM
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Wow. I feel that a piece of the story is missing here. I can't believe a mom would cut her daughter and grandchildren out of her life. Same goes for your sister. Has there been something else going on too?

Either way, I am sorry you have to deal with obviously not stable people in your life, especially when they are ones that are supposed to love you.
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June 17th, 2012, 05:59 PM
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We have always had a strained relationship because I was taken from. My mom at age two and my mom blames me for my dad leaving her. That's what is missing.
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June 18th, 2012, 06:26 AM
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Screw them. You tried to work it out, she's been holding your father's actions against you for years and now she deliberately yanked your joy from you and had the nerve to be spiteful about it. Screw it. You and your babies are better off.
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June 18th, 2012, 08:30 AM
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We have always had a strained relationship because I was taken from. My mom at age two and my mom blames me for my dad leaving her. That's what is missing.

Wow. That is awful. I know it is easier said than done, but you don't need someone like that in the lives of your children. Who knows what kinds of lies would be told to them.

I hope things work out with you and your husband (if that is what you want).
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June 18th, 2012, 09:39 AM
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I'm so sorry, they sound very toxic to me. It must hurt real bad, but learn the lesson and never tell them anything important again. They don't deserve your love by the sounds of it.
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June 18th, 2012, 11:39 PM
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We have always had a strained relationship because I was taken from. My mom at age two and my mom blames me for my dad leaving her. That's what is missing.
WOW..... that is complete BULL****!

Im sorry
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June 22nd, 2012, 08:29 AM
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At least I have my husband as support
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June 22nd, 2012, 08:29 PM
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Wow that is pretty dang low of them to do. If that is how they act then you do not need them in your life anyway. You dont deserve to be treated that way!!! I hope you were still able to tell your hubby in a special way!!
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June 22nd, 2012, 09:17 PM
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Yea I told him to act like he didnt know and I gave him a fathers day shirt with my kids hand prints on it and I made a foot print on it. I also gave him a book called "she is having a baby and I am having a breakdown"
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