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I cant be pregnant with my sil anymore, i mean really, she went to get her neck adjusted and learned that she is gonna need massages for her back cause she will have problems when she gets bigger (like all of use pregnant women do) but now its a constant, but back is killing me, I cant do anything, i dont know if I can work my back is killing me, its fine if ONCE a day she said something, but she doesn't its everytime we are on the freaking phone.... she is 22 weeks pregnant, and i understand that her back could hurt I know with this one mine did and my hips were killing me, but its like I dont complain ONCE, I dont say crap about how it takes me 30 min to get outta bed cause my hips are hurting so bad, or I cant even walk sometimes they hurt so bad, I just suck it up and go on, but she has to be center of attention for everything, just drives me nutz...
On the fourth I was in the hospital (thought I was going into labor my water broke but sealed back up), the whole time she was talking about her baby and her baby was doing this and her baby was doing that and how she wouldn't stop moving around I just wanted to tell her to shove it down her freaking throat, I just would like one day just one day where there is no talk about babies that come out of her mouth... or that her back hurts... I am being selfish and I know I am cause I am been sitting back and just letting it go, letting her be the center of attention, she has went as far as not inviting us to church lunch cause she didn't want me there, and I didn't say anything, but my due date is coming up and I just want the day I go into labor to be about me and my husband and my two year old boy, its our big day.... I dont want her to say one word about her pregnancy and her baby at all, I know what some of your thinking what a ***** but I deserve just one day, even on my freaking birthday it was about her... what she wanted... just ONE DAY is all I am asking...
Thank for letting me vent I am so angry at the moment...
Wow, you have a LOT more restraint than what I have!!!! I would have been kicking her butt out of the room and telling her to get over it! I know some like that, ALL they do is complain and it gets OLD!!!!! Sure you have some pain and whatever, but we all do and we all complain once in a while! I feel for you! I am sure that since it is your sil that it is harder to say something to her.
Or just go for it and tell you to knock it off and stop the complaining!! If something is said, blame it on the pregnancy hormones!
OOOOHHH I was in that same situation with my first daughter but I was the one griping . My step sister and Step sister in law and I were all preggo at the same time...our kids are like 1 to 2 months apart. It was new for me and not for them so I did a lot more gushing and griping. Finally at a family function my step-sister just told me to shut up . She explained what I was doing from her POV and I understood and pretty much shut up. I was there for each of their births and gushed over how beautiful their babys were but said nothing about my impending birth because it was their day. (Julie was born last) And they did the same for me by not bringing attention to their new ones on my day....even though we HAD to hold everyones baby and found it neet that the 3 musketeers were finally together . We are dorks! So my advice....tell her she is being annoying maybe she dosen't see it.
I totally understand your situtation!! I'm sorry that you are going through it. I have a friend tht is like that. She complains about everything. She has went as far as not going to the doctor yet and she is at least 3 or 4 months pregnant. She knows how I feel about that but I guess that she just wants everyone to keep begging her. She has tons of people giving her baby stuff and she turns around and tells me she isn't going to use that stuff that the others have given her. Now she wants my stuff that I have bought since we have been TTC. I don't think so!! Girl, I hope that you work everything out. Could you make yourself distant from her till after the baby is born and maybe that will change her a bit? Good Luck girl and feel free to vent here anytime.
:dothugs: Im sorry you are going through this!!!! I wish I could give you a great big hug because you are being so strong. Maybe she will realize that the world does not revolve around her, but I worry she wont
So sorry this is going on, my cousin did the same thing. It drove me crazy! She went on and on about her morning sickness, backaches and everything to anyone who would listen and I was the one who said "do you think you are the first woman to ever have a baby because you sure are acting like it." I made her cry but it got the point across. Another thing that made me sick is my DS is 8 and his name is Jonathan, after both my dad and grandfather. She decided to name her son she just had last October after our grandfather. Even my grandmother is appalled.
So I think a lot of us has been in a similar situation before. Just hang in there, you are doing great! If all else fails, tell her unless she is going to keep her mouth shut, she is not going to be in the delivery room because you are right....it IS your family's day, not hers!
Thank you KimberlyD0 for my absolutely beautiful siggy!