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April 21st, 2013, 05:51 PM
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My name is Brittany and I have been married for 4 years. We have 3 kids 2.5 and under. I feel like my marriage is falling apart. My husband will not talk to me. He won't quit watching tv and he won't help me w the kids . He also works at Walmart part time and has for four years and will not look for another job. Day care is so high I cannot afford to go to work. We have to live w my parents. I try to talk to him about moving out and all he says is idk. He loves staying here bc he doesn't have to pay for anything. I'm at my wits end w him. And to top it off he some nights works till eleven and I have to get the kids to bed by myself which is mission impossible with a 2.5 and 16 month old twins that wants to be rocked to sleep. And my husband is a college graduate . The dumb butt went three yrs to school for what he thought was an assoc degree in social work but turned out to be a degree in general classes. I just don't know what to do we argue a lot . We try not to in front of the girls. Any advice would greatly be appreciated
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July 25th, 2013, 09:25 AM
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Do you have a pastor you can speak with? Other counseling resources in your community? If communication has entirely broken down I think a third party may be the way to go.

Also, considering you are staying with your parents can you tell him it's time to step up and move out or you go to work and he can watch the kids? Any job experience you could fall back on?

You don't have to put up with this. Start looking for ways to change the situation, with or without him.
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December 17th, 2013, 12:05 PM
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if he is starting to check out, he may be starting to check out of the marriage, which DEF needs to be nipped in the bud if you want any sort of romantic relationship together.

sounds like you guys are not only not on the same page, you're in completely different books. it's time for that 'come to Jesus' talk, i call it. sit down with him and ask him when he wants to move out on your own (and essentially grow up) or if you guys should just part ways.

i believe every marriage that can be saved should be, but it's not going to be easy. ask him straight out, "do you want to stay together?" any answer other than "yes" gives you your indication of what YOU should do next.

also look into some local aids that may help with childcare that way you can attempt to get a job as well.
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