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Hello Im new to expressing my feelings online but at this point i have no where else to go . On monday i found out that i was 4 wks pregnant which was a total shock to me because i have been taking birth control and missed only 4 pills (only 4 silly right?) but im stuck in a dilemma my ex bf and i have only been broken up a month but we were dating for 3 years. i live in the same household with my ex bf and his family. my family lives an hr away and im here bc i need to finish my program in school that is over in Dec. I am devastated because his mother and him think i got pregnant one purpose which i would never do . meanwhile im in a household with his mother that hates me for supposedly trapping here son and he feels the same way. and he also states that if we were together this would be no probelem but in the same breath says he cant be with me to raise this child. I am 25 years old i know thats not a way to keep a man. My mom is uber excited about being a grandma but she doesnt know the stress im under with the ex bf. Him and i still hang out go on trips and have sex up until i found out i was pregnant on monday. he doesnt want to have the baby and says if we do decided to go on with the pregnancy we will file papers for joint custody and both parent singly. He says he cant see himself with me and wants to be here and supportive of me if i decide to keep this baby. I never cheated or strayed while we were together we are simply not together because he doesnt think im as motivated as i should be .PLEASE HELP. currently have no one on my side and i desperately need help.
Is it possible to get yourself a new living arrangement? To be broken up and have your ex-boyfriend and his mom against you is going to be stressful and you don't need that when you're expecting a baby. Especially since you can't get away from it all and have your own place. I am around 25 years of age as well and I know that financially that might not be possible but it would be worth looking into.
If you can't, that's ok. Just try to make the best of the situation until you are finished school. Then start working towards owning your own place and raising this child if you do in fact tend to keep it.
As much as it might be heart-breaking that you and your ex are not together for whatever reasons, the most important person in your life should be you and the baby. Keep it together! Things tend to work out in the end!
Hope everything turns better sooner than later!
And sorry for the crappy advice, just trying to help the best that I can.