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  #1  
October 18th, 2004, 04:58 PM
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<span style="font-family:Arial">1. No Name Calling.

2. No violence.

3. No fighting for longer than 15 minutes. If discussion lasts for longer then 15 minutes, it is not going to be resolved. Reschedule for another day and time.

4. Don\'t say never, always or you.

5. Say I feel, I need, I want, when I hear you say...I think or feel..

6. Don\'t go to bed angry.

7. Don\'t just say "I\'m sorry"; include "please forgive me".

8. Do not argue when hungry, angry, tired, or late at night.

9. Discuss only one topic at a time. It is not helpful to bring up old problems at the same time as discussing new problems.

10. Talk about how you feel hurt and why; anger is a secondary emotion.

11. Each partner needs to take no more than 50% of the responsibility for the communciation problem. A relationship is a mutal agreement between 2 people and it does not come easily, it takes practice, work, and time.</span>
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October 18th, 2004, 05:27 PM
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These are great guidelines! Thanks for posting them!!!
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Thanks. I really needed that.

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Wow, those are good guidelines, thanks a lot!
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March 28th, 2005, 07:42 AM
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lol those were great- Im sending them to my Fiance now.
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October 15th, 2006, 03:19 AM
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So glad I read this... I'm about to hand hubby a letter telling him how I feel, but off to edit it a little first.
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Thanks for posting that, I agree with it toally , but I have to say me and my husband don't always follow that when we fight.Sometimes it can get pretty ugly.But we are trying at least
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April 17th, 2007, 08:12 PM
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Thanks for posting this!
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June 3rd, 2007, 07:38 AM
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Thanks so much for posting these's
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August 22nd, 2007, 10:50 PM
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Wow those are some good guidelines! Need to start following those!!
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October 30th, 2007, 07:28 AM
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Those are awesome. I'm emailing them to DF now.

Those are awesome. I'm emailing them to DF now.
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July 9th, 2008, 08:13 AM
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Those are some really good guidelines. My partner and I have been arguing a lot recently, so hopefully following those guidelines will help.
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Thank you! I am in the midst of trying to figure out how to better handle our disputes, so I will definitely try these great suggestions and past them on to my boyfriend.
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I agrree... Ineed to print that out!!!
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i seriously need to send this to my husband LOL
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These are amazing.. I need to abide by them!
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May 14th, 2011, 06:47 PM
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thank you but when when i say this .. i get a more rude responce back,,, all i want is a thanks for keeping the house clean, keeping kids,fed & dressed,, doing the laundrey ... i thank him everyday for working and giving us money for food ,,, that were we are now,,, he's pushing me to the edge,,, to the point where i want nothing to do with him or his kid
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