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Brian and I are the foundation of this family and the foundation is being neglected.
He's always too tired or too busy or too stressed to spend time with me. We don't have sex anymore, I stay up late to wait for him to come home and still get up early and he sleeps in. He comes home when he works a double and takes a nap on his break. He works 8-2 today and I bet he will come home and sleep.
Last night he got mad because I said I was going to start using cloth diapers on Brielle too. Jillian has been using them and it has saved us a lot of money so my mother bought some Brielle's size for her. Brian has never changed a cloth diaper and I don't expect him to. He will never wash them either which is totally fine with me cuz he wouldn't know what to do anyway. I thought he would be excited about it since we will save even more money but no. He thinks it's gross to wash his clothes in the same washer as poo. I just feel everytime I do something or say something no matter how good my intentions are he hates it, like he hates me. He says he loves me but he sure the heck doesn't show it. I just am so steaming at him.
I won't use cloth diapers for the same exact reason, it totally grosses me out and since I have to share 4 washers with 32 other apartments ... its not good to do that because I would be furious if someone else did it, kwim? But it's different when it's your own washer I guess.
Is it possible for you to get a sitter for a couple of hours so you guys can have a date? Or just rent a movie and cook his favorite dinner. It he is working extra hours, he may just need the R&R. Put on some sexy lingerie, suprise him in the shower ... Write him a love note (no nagging, just praise and admiration) ... make him feel special.
Sounds to me like you guys need some Adult Time away from the kiddies!
You guys need some alone time and a time where you both can sit down, without getting upset, without yelling, without anything and tell each other how you feel. Tell each other what is going on in each of your lives and tell each other 1 thing that the other could do to show that you loved/cared about the other person. Like you could tell him to 1 night a week put the dishes away or give the kids a bath and for him it could be like for 10 minutes a day, let him talk about what ever or get a back rub. The time of each activity doesn't matter or what it is, but it needs to be something that each of you know is something special that can be done to feel like the other appreciates and cares about the other.