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oh my gosh i would be so mad... im so sorry hunnie... you know what... you should save up so money and treat yourself to a day/night out... go out with the girls... thats not fair for him to be leaving you at home with the kids so he can go out and have fun with his army buddies without you.. let me know what happens!
You know what I think? I think its the military that does this to them! My husband does the same thing! They still live like they are bachelors! I know in my situation my husband is gone a LOT so hes not used to living in a family setting so he only thinks about himself. I mean, thats what he does when hes on the boat but he doesn't or cant change when he gets back home.
I dont know how often your husband is home, but even just hanging out with a bunch of other bachelors makes them act like that again. I cannot wait until we are out of the military! I definitely feel ya on this cause my husband is the same way. Know what I got for my bday two years ago? A 750 dollar exhaust for HIS car. We didn't have the money to buy the exhaust and have anything left to do anything for me so I didn't get anything. I told him I wasn't mad because I knew how much he wanted the darn thing, but I was P---ed!
I would try talking to him about it. I've found that if I talk to dh about how hes acting, even tho he gets defensive and mad at me and starts in with the "I'm a bad husband and father" bull crap.. it sinks in after a few days and he comes back and apologizes. Doesn't always last long, but it helps him to realize it when hes doing it sometimes.
<div align="center">Amber (26)
Mom to Crista Ann (6) and
Megan Riley (3) </div>
HUGS to you sweetie!!!!
My dh did that for a long time. I finally told him that if he wants to act like a single idiot, I'll leave him alone to do it. I told him I didn't get married to be alone, and if he doesn't give me a true reason to need him (other than money, b/c we can always find a way), then I might as well be on my own. He never liked it too much at first, but it sunk in.
I'M MAD JUST READING IT!!!!!!!!!!! That is in no way shape or form acceptable. He is being selfish and selfish is something left to 18 year old bachelors- not family men. I would tell him that you need to celebrate something this Friday (anything down to ben & jerry's has a new flavor will work) and go out. At the very least to celebrate your birthday. If this isn't your way then I agree with telling him that what he is doing is ridiculous and uncalled for and if he isn't prepared to be a family man and would rather be a bachelor then he can have at it- don't let the door hit him on the *&^# on the way out the door.
<span style="font-family:Comic Sans MS">Christie</span>