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Every night this past week has been a fight, all about different things.
Everytime I say something to him that I want to do or that we have to do I get this: "*sigh* *rolleyes*"
I say "we have to go to the grocery store I get "*sigh*"
I say "we are using cloth diapers" I get "*sigh*"
I say "I have to go vote on your break Tues." I get "*sigh*"
I say "Can we have sex tonight?" I get "*sigh*"
I say "I am watching my cousins baby to make us extra money" I get "*sigh*"
I say "I might have found a home for the doggy you hate so we have to give her a bath." I get "*sigh*".......................
So you get the point right? I hate it. I feel like he does not like me. He may love me, but he doesn't like me much. I got so pissed last night. Last nights fight was about the voting thing. He usually comes home on his break between shifts and takes a nap. (Even though I stay up just as late as him and get up earlier and DONT take a nap but whatever ) So I said on Tues, I'll need to go vote then since it is the only time I can because you work all day. He got mad!!! I couldn't beleive it! Two weeks ago when I said I wasn't going to vote because NY always goes with what I vote anyway.", he said "Don't make excuses for not voting." so now when I say I am going to vote he gets mad too! Doesn't matter what I do, he gets mad. I had to go to the store once and he hates waiting foe me to shower before we go so I had everyone all showered and ready to go for when he got home and he was still mad he had to go.
I told him what some of you had told me yesturday, that we need some alone time. I told him even if it's just sitting on the couch talking, we need to nurture our relationship or it will just crumble apart. He didn't say anything. Well at least he didn't get mad right? Grrrr.
I am done. I told him last night he can do what the heck he want and I will try not to disrupt his life. I don't need his help for anything, I will not ASK for his help with anything and until he can stop being an #$%* I will walk around here like we are just roomates because that's how he makes me feel. Then I went to bed and he slept on the couch.
Originally posted by lillysue@Oct 28 2004, 07:25 AM ((((hugs)))) Jeanelle, I'm so sorry Brian is acting like a jerk I think you need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart . Men usually don't know what we are feeling unless it is spelled out.
I totally agree with Sue, here. (((hugs)))
What a jerk! It doesn't seem like he is willing to compromise on anything. I dont blame you for giving up and not talking to him for awhile, but it still wont make things better. Im sorry you deserve better than that sweetie
I'm so sorry sweetie! HUGS!!!!!!!!
Do you think maybe he's going through a rut, or one of those reality/life crisis?
My husband did that to me for a couple years, and I finally found out that it was a depression/hormone imbalance thing. Plus he had very high blood pressure, which also made him act like an !%@#. To this day if he forgets to take his medicine and his supplements, by the end of the day I'm ready to move in with my mom (who is impossible to live with).
I wish you the best, and will pray for you.
I am sorry to hear that he is still being such a jerk!!! Somehow you need to figure out how to break down his wall and find out what is really bothering him. Who knows what it could be. I don't know what to tell you to do to get him to talk, for some people, just leaving a letter explaining how they are feeling is enough and for others it is a drastic move of kicking out the other person or moving out themselves. I AM NOT telling you to move out or to kick him out, I am just saying that this is a way that I know some people have used to get through to their hard headed stubborn DH/DW/SO. From what you have describe, he doesn't sound like he would be very willing to go to counseling. What would he do if you made an appointment and took him there without telling him what it is for? I know my DH would be mad at me for doing that, but if during the session it got whatever out in the open, then it would be worth it to me. Maybe you need to sit down yourself and decide how much more of this you can take and then lay it on the line with him. I just think if you can just somehow get through to him to find out what is up, things would change. Hang in there!!!! (((((HUGS)))))