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March 17th, 2008, 05:50 PM
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My boyfriend is a workaholic. Work always comes first.

We've been rocky for the last little while, and it got a lot worse last week. It appeared to settle down on the weekend, and all was back to normal.

But he comes home today and says "guess where I'm going this sunday, St. Louis." ***? Yeah, his job asked him if he'd go away for a week (knowing them he'll be gone a month) and he said yes. We live together, we've been living together for going on 6 months now, and he didn't even take two seconds to think about how I'd feel, or even call me and ask me. He just immediately tells work ok. Not to mention he's going to the US for 3 weeks this summer, possibly missing an important family wedding on my side because they want him to go. I'm tired of this job coming first all the frigging time.

Next week, around March 27th is when I would have been due with my twins had they not been taken too soon, and I'm going to have to spend that HUGELY emotionally charged week alone, and he doesn't care. He is annoyed that I am upset with him!

AHHHH... I'm tired of people being inconsiderate, and not asking how I'd feel about something. I'm supposed to be important too dammit!


Thanks for letting me vent ladies.
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March 19th, 2008, 01:46 PM
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Sorry to hear that you are going through this. Have you sat him down and talked to him about how you feel? If sitting him down isnt an option what about emailing him?? You need to get your feeling out there for him to at acknowledge and deal with.
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March 20th, 2008, 08:30 PM
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My boyfriend isn't adjusting to being part of a couple. He witnessed his father doing basically what ever the hell he wanted while he was growing up, and seems to think that's ok. Never mind that his parents divorced because of it when he was 6... lol.

I've sat him down. he's just going through a very selfish phase right now. Luckily work couldn't get him into the course for Monday, so he's not going this week. I'm ok with him going, I just didn't want it to be next week, and I'd like to be back to work when it happens.
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April 3rd, 2008, 08:18 PM
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Just read this now. Big hugs!!
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April 9th, 2008, 08:31 AM
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Sounds like a tough situation. I would suggest sitting down and telling him exactly how you feel.
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