[Duckie.]

I'm really frustrated with myself. With the girls, I was so excited and spent the entire time researching baby gear and reading parenting books. Now, I'm sure because of the surprise and I've "been there, done that", I am lacking a serious amount of giddy excitement. I'm very excited for practical reasons, but I have no desire to build a nursery, restart my maternity wardrobe or be signed up for a pregnancy newsletter. I have an iphone app, but only because I forget how far along I am, lol.

I guess I just don't see the point of everything, you know? No, I don't want to buy a super filly travel system and have a fancy coming home outfit. But I do want a little soft baby laying next to me when I sleep, and I want to hear the coos and fusses of a newborn.

This being Mike's first child, his family and friends are going nuts already with gifts and inquiries about coming to ultrasound appointments. I'd rather they not waste their money on baby bath tubs that will be used twice, and diaper genie's. I feel like I'm kind of ruining all of the fun but I just feel kind of "blah" about the whole baby shopping, decorating, obsessing.

The only thing I want to dive into is cloth diapers, and other than that, I'd rather we just be left alone to experience this together.

[dream2bemommy22]

So why not mention to them the things you do need, like cloth diapers ( who knows you might be in need of blue clothes) , maybe a new baby carrier or sling, and some of the other basics. I dont know what you still have left from the girls. Maybe if they want to throw you a shower, you can tell them you would prefer a cloth diaper shower? No need to get things you really dont want or need, and people can still have fun picking ones out.

It took me a while to get excited about this baby. And i am very much aware of what i like and dont like, and what i need and dont need for baby gear. Ive reused as much as i can ( sheets, crib, carseat, pack and play, cloth diapers) but really i needed to get a few extras like clothes, a swing, ect.

I was actually depressed about this pregnancy ( i know how bad that sounds) until i had my 12 week NT scan. When i saw that baby, looking like a baby. It clicked for me. Before then, i was just scared of what the future would be. Now i cant imagine my life any other way, im beyond overjoyed and im even getting into buying stuff ( i didnt buy anything until i was 19 weeks)

Give it time, its still new. But soon you will get into it. And if it makes you feel better, i still have to check my tickers online to figure out how far i am. I constantly forget....having 2 kids to chase around keeps me occupied, lol

[Julka]

I don't know, I was very excited during my pregnancy with #3 to get to buy everything. We gave away or sold pretty much 90% of our things from the girls, and a couple things we got rid of since they were recalled. But that made everything so much more exciting, since so many new products came out since Veronika's birth nearly 4 years ago... the bouncy chairs are cooler, the swings have funkier features, etc etc.

I can totally understand his family's reaction - new baby = excitement! Especially for grandparents who don't already have prior grandkids. I agree about letting them know what you do need.

[blessdmommy]

That's kinda what I did...I put all the things I didn't have and wanted on my wish list. No diaper pails, no baby bath tubs, no clothes. Just what I need that I don't already have (which is pretty much a lot because we've moved and thrown away a ton).

[Mod-quietsong]

I'd put together a wish list too and direct people to that, though yes, whatever they do buy and give you is great too. New babies are exciting, especially first babies! I have been a lot more mellow and practical about this baby, though now that he's getting close I'm getting more and more excited. Julia is right too, all of my "big" baby stuff was 5-6 years old, and there is just SO much newer, cooler stuff out there. DH doesn't want to buy a new bouncy chair and play gym, and I'm like, butbutbut Ours are both 6 years old and came from a garage sale; they're super lame compared to the ones out there now.

I think it's normal to not be excited right away, especially with surprise pregnancies. It has to grow on you sometimes...and it will!

[Admin-Twinkle]

I had a hard time in the beginning with Kate's pregnancy... it wasn't a planned pregnancy and we were caught off guard. We didn't really need much, Kate and Julia are only 20 months apart, so we had a lot and I didn't need much being the 3rd girl. But I can see where his family is coming from being the first for your SO. If they ask what you need, be honest. I'm sure they are just excited and want to help as much as they can.

[happyhme44]

I agree with the other ladies on this try to direct them to what you really need. As for their excitement let them be as excited as they want to be. If this is his first baby then he and his family deserves the fun and excitement of the first baby feeling. This is SO much better than to have them angry or resentful about it. I think it is really nice that they are so happy for you both. I only have one kid but my mum told me all about how she felt with my youngest brother. My parents had two kids and when they got pregnant with my younger brother they were in a really tight spot. My mum said she was sad, stressed, and terrified the entire pregnancy. The second he was born she fell in love. I don't think your feelings are out of place or not normal. We all handle situations differently, but I would totally play along with his family. It is awesome they are so supportive!!