[claire1979]

Do you get on with your in laws?

I'm seriously thinking of stopping her seeing my kids....She has gone and said to one of my daughters face that all my kids are mistakes and the only reason me and thier dad are still together is because of them.

And also she had my 13 year old daughter roll cigerettes the other week i was fuming. She has the cheek to slag me off in front of the kids at every oppertunity. enough is enough.

what would you do?

[Admin-Twinkle]

My belief is family or not, there is a certain level or respect and morality that one must show and possess in order to be around my kids. If my inlaws weren't meeting those standards I have, then they wouldn't be around my kids. I'm sorry you aren't getting along with your mother in law, based on what you've said I wouldn't want to be around someone like that at all!

[Julka]

Yes. Sometimes you need to rid your life of toxic people, family or not.

we only see my inlaws once a month or so, and that's for one afternoon. They live an hour drive from us and never really visit, unless we go there for birthdays or holidays. They are nice people though. We have a language barrier so I can't speak to them much, but I don't have anything bad to say about them.

[youngwoman]

I agree with Christine and Julia; life is too short to surround yourself with negative people who bring you down, family or not. Your MIL sounds like someone I wouldn't waste my time with either! What does Lee think? Would he be willing to talk to his mother about it?

[happyhme44]

He dislikes his parents.. So that takes a lot of pressure off of me to be super nice to them. They are vile creatures to their son, and they make me really angry. On the other hand they are the most amazing grandparents to Kate, so that means they get to be in her life. Truthfully I am sooooo glad I don't have to deal with their visits anymore. I actually feel really bad for him when they visit. lol If they were like that to Kate I would cut them off without a second thought and THEY KNOW IT. This means they are on their best behavior.

[Coffee_Bean]

I love my MIL and my SFIL. Its his dad that I dispise. We had to cut ties with him because of his negativity, then tries to make us feel bad about it. Sorry, nope. Our lives are MUCH more positive now that he is not around us.

[claire1979]

Yes we cut ties with her, the kids opened up and told us what its like for them when they see them without us, disgusting what i found out....then to blame the kids ..so yes they are out of our lives.