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April 23rd, 2009, 07:38 AM
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I go to so many doctor's appointments, do so much research on-line, read, etc., that I feel like a nurse more than a mother. I do it to benefit my DS, that's why...but I wish I could be like the other mothers that take their kids to the park when ever they want, have a doctor's appointment for when the kids are either sick or a well-check, not every week & almost every day. Today is my ONLY day off & I have so much to do around the house (obviously I am not doing it as I am on JM right now ) but it's stressful. I do have to go to the bank & the pharmacy...but other than that today is my "off" day... I look forward to not doing anything but then I have so much to do.


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April 23rd, 2009, 09:00 AM
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*sigh* yes, I do feel like a nurse.
I can't leave the house without at least 2 machines and a plethora of wires and tubes. I can deep suction my baby's airway with my eyes closed. But I was chosen to be Ava's mother for a reason. I love her and I'm happy to be able to care for her. (Remind me that I said this when I've had no sleep and Ava is screaming)

I know it's hard. I feel your pain, hon. I really do.

I wish I got paid like a nurse
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April 23rd, 2009, 09:11 AM
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YES! And when we go into the hospital, they think that I'm a nurse or doctor. Hahaha I definitely feel like their mother, too, and I know that "nurse" is part of the job description, but I'd love to be able to sit down with them, worry-free, and not have to think about anything medical. It's just an unfortunate part of our day so far, so we incorporate the medical stuff into fun. Weird, but you do what you have to!
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April 23rd, 2009, 11:32 AM
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YES! And when we go into the hospital, they think that I'm a nurse or doctor. Hahaha I definitely feel like their mother, too, and I know that "nurse" is part of the job description, but I'd love to be able to sit down with them, worry-free, and not have to think about anything medical. It's just an unfortunate part of our day so far, so we incorporate the medical stuff into fun. Weird, but you do what you have to!
It's funny that you mention that when you go to appointments that doctors or nurses think you are also a nurse or in health care. I am "constantly" asked "you're a doctor?" "you're a nurse?" and not in a sarcastic way, more because of my knowledge of medications, therapy, and the type of treatment that I am interested in. To me, I have to learn about this stuff, it's not an option.

What makes me sad is that I am the ONLY one that knows Cooper 100%, truly. I do put all of Cooper's medical contacts in my DH's phone. I try to tell DH what we had to do w/ an appointment or therapy on the days we have them. I have a large book, that is organized w/ Cooper's surgeries, specialists, dates, tests, you name it...just in case something ever happened to me, my DH would have something to go to & have more than just contacts in his cell phone.

I hate though, that I am the ONLY one that gets "it"... I wish my DH was more involved in the care. We had to go to a meeting recently about Cooper transitioning from E.I. to the special ed. program for Pre-K. My DH attended the meeting & he was shocked @ all the specialists observations & recommendations & then to read all of Cooper's medical care & needs from the specialists that have dealt w/ him since day 1, well...he looked scared. Then when we got home & I said "this is going to cost us more money you know"...he just responded "but he needs it, you heard them, we have too". I liked that he acknowledged that but at the same time, I feel that "I" am the one who has to "DO IT ALL"... yet he is constantly making me feel like I could do more. Having a child w/ SN, and again, I know that Cooper could be worst off & I am blessed on how well he is doing & how far he's come along, isn't easy, it's emotionally draining. You end up not doing things for yourself and you end up slacking on doing things w/ your other kids, not intentionally, but it just happens. By the time my DS wants to do something "fun" w/ me, I have all the kids in bed/sleeping (not common) & I want to just "chill" and watch 1 of my many DVR programs. KWIM? It's horrible but it's hard. Which is why my DS is in therapy, so he can understand why his mommy has to do so much more for Cooper than for the rest of them. I even give him more attention than my 15 mos. old, not b/c I want too but b/c I have too.

Sigh... but... if I knew then what I know now, I wouldn't change it, I'd still have my little Cooper, he makes me smile. He call's himself "Kipper"...and point to his baby brother & say "my T.T." (his real name is Teighan/Tay-Gun), it's cute. He's very protective of his baby T.T., it's adorable.

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April 23rd, 2009, 11:59 AM
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Yes & I do it as a profession too....only geriatrics.

A pharmacy filled a script for Luke (Zantac) & the label said to give him 6x what the dose was to be. When I told them it was incorrect, they argued with me. I finally told them "Listen, I'm a nurse & I am telling you this is wrong!" I even rattled off what the dose was to be. They corrected it but still. It worries me.
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April 23rd, 2009, 07:42 PM
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