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I honestly don't know. I know that my DH is open to, and I think would really like to have another, though he won't come out and tell that to me straight for whatever reason. Me... I've had in my mind for a long time I wanted two, especially after all of the complications with Danny. Lately, though, I've been thinking once in a blue moon that a third might not be that bad once Danny is a little older, if he continues to progress as well as he is.
That all being said, I am scared of being pregnant and rolling the dice again hoping for a healthy child. After I and my best friend went through picture perfect pregnancies, no complications, no risk factors, and ended up with one extremely ill, disabled baby and one dead baby, it's like...what are the chances? I find it amazing that anyone ever has a healthy child with all of the things that could go wrong for no reason. I have a lot of fear to work through before I could even consider TTC, and I just don't think I'll be able to do it again.
^^ I completely agree with you on the scary thought of trying again. I struggle with that, but I feel like we will have one more, but it may be a while. We want to make sure we have everything with Claire under control first, before we try again.
That's a big piece of it for us as well... We want to make sure we've got a total handle on things with Danny. Maybe in a year or so we'll be able to re-evaluate without the cloud of uncertainty hanging over our head.
Aside from having 4 kids to feed being a lot in today's society. I am just done. I don't want more kids b/c I don't have more energy or time for another. Plus, w/ all that I have to do for Cooper, I feel badly that I had more after him since it put more on me all together, then w/ Teighan, he has eating problems & is in E.I. for that, so now I have double the issues to deal w/ on top of your every day stuff. I don't regret my children, but at the same time I still feel guilt. Not sure if that made sense.
We have talked about adopting later. Probably another mild SN kid. I don't think I'm ready to "roll the dice" again either given the condition of both of my kids' placentas. Ryanne was only 6#12oz and healthy but Hunter was 5#0oz and it was from the placental degradation. What would the third be?!? I couldn't take it. And we've replaced ourselves. I want more, but we have decided we shouldn't have more... So we'll "buy" instead of "bake" as my friend says of her mixed family ;-)
Kristi~ Mom to Ryanne (12/31/05) and Hunter (5/12/07).