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My name is Kim. I have 3 sons. Their ages are 6, 4, & 2. My middle son, Cooper is autistic. He is quite a challenge. We had him evaluated a year and a half ago. We've tried OT, speech, ABA, preschool. Now, we are doing the Sonrise program with Autism Treatment Centers of America. As much as I love this program, it takes away all my free time. He is home with me all the time now. I work with him as a therapist would. Our main challenges are eating, sleeping, and communication. He has done amazing on his social skills. I am starting to get some more words and a few sentences here and there.
I just found out this weekend that we are pregnant again. My husband is in shock. I just told him last night. He doesn't know how we will be able to handle all of this with a new baby and all Cooper's therapy's. I'm so scared. We were using birth control pills, so we tried to be responsible. I'm starting to get excited about another baby, as I love children, but I'm so scared too. I'm so afraid for another special needs child and the time commitment. I wish I could clone myself sometimes.
Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers and we come to terms with this blessing. I need all the prayers I can get to keep sane and still help Cooper at the same time.
thank you so much for letting me join you.
Mommy to Connor, Cooper & Brady
Wife to Kevin of 9 years
Welcome to the board, Kim, and congratulations on your pregnancy!! I definitely understand where both you and your husband are coming from; I feel like I spent SO much of my time as a therapist for Danny that the idea of having another child frightens me... I had a few months where I was late and I was so freaked out, but at the same time excited by the idea of another pregnancy. We're also preventing right now, and I feel like we won't be planning to have another at all, but when you're confronted with the idea it grows on you no matter what.
I'm glad you've got a program that you love for Cooper, though having to spend so much time with it is tough! How is Cooper doing with the program - do you think with time, he might need a little less devoted time? If nothing else, you can probably find ways to work the new baby into it, just with some different focuses. There are certainly a LOT of new language opportunities that will come with a new baby!
Hi Kim, I'm new here as well. I don't think anything is going to help alleviate your concerns more than the arrival of the new baby. You may find that Cooper and his younger brother love to help with the new baby and Cooper may take encouragement towards stepping forward from each of his younger siblings. You'll find a way to make it work, that's what moms do. We make a day last a month for our babies if that's what they need. It's one of those occasions where time will tell.
I hope Cooper continues his progress and that you find a way to enjoy your pregnancy.