frustrated

beccasmom7718 · #1 April 23rd, 2011, 08:21 PM

Hi
my 4yr old was diagnosed by his speech therapist with severe receptive and moderate to severe expressive language dissorder.
His school speech lady asked me if he has FAS, a social worker whom we met with for adoption asked us the same thing. We have always leaned towards FAS because we know his mom drank while she was pregnant with him. And his brother. But she wont admit to it, so we cant get testing done.
Which frustrates the crap out of me.
I looked it up online and we found an awesome booklet that we printed out, with alot of info and stratagies to help him. Alot of the things to look for for FAS he fits.
Im not trying to diagnose him myself, we know he has adhd, but its more then that.
But FAS is scary but it would explain alot!
i just wish our ped. would take me seriously and not worry about if the mom would admit to it or not!

C&K'sMama · #2 April 23rd, 2011, 11:48 PM

I don't get why they won't test if he fits the symptoms. That must be frustrating!

mamma_anna · #3 April 25th, 2011, 09:11 PM

I'm so sorry! That just doesn't make any sense.

Has the adoption been finalized yet? If so the birthmother shouldn't have the final say in medical issues anymore. Maybe you could speak with the social worker about it again?

I hope you can figure this all out soon and get your son the testing he needs. Wish I had better advice for you.

beccasmom7718 · #4 April 26th, 2011, 06:22 PM

i wish we could adopt him!!
right now, we have sole custody and parenting of him, she has supervised visitation, which is a nightmare on its own, especially since she hasnt seen him in 6months.

In order for me to adopt she has to agree, or i could take her to court, seeings as she is my fiances ex and he had his son with her ... he is the dad and he has alot of say.
But that would leave her still coming and seeing her youngest son, who is not related to either of us, but is DS's brother . (confusing right) since he has a different dad one of them would have to agree to us adopting him and that wont happen without a huge fight.

i dont think the doctors should refuse because the BM lies...i mean arrrgggh

as for her rights, she has none, we have all decision making and everything we can move to a different country and dont have to ask her.

nvr.4.gtn · #5 April 29th, 2011, 04:36 PM

well bless you for taking all this on! I know I am sure it is all worth it but what a struggle too.

I don't see why they need "permission" to run a test either. Seems like an easy thing to do. Maybe a second opinion?