First of all, sorry for my late reply but Hi

and welcome to the board.
I'm so sorry you and your daughter are having to deal with this. It must be so scary and frustrating for both of you.
I don't have any expirience with diabetes so I can't offer any specific advice on that but I hope some of Sarah's suggestions will be helpful to you.
The only thing I would suggest is looking for a support group for you and your daughter. Maybe a playgroup type thing would encourage her to be more compliant because she'll see other kids just like her dealing with the same thing.
And I can totally relate to you on stressing over starting kindergarten. My little one just finished kindergarten last week. Overall the year went really well and she loves school. But those first few months were really hard. I was worried all the time and checked in on her at least 3 times a day. (I know I'm a little nuts.

) But we were blessed with a great support team and all my worrying was really unnecessary. By November we were both much more relaxed.
Hopefully you'll also have a great team and it won't take you or your daughter as long to adjust. I'd be suprised if the school hasn't had students with diabetes before. They should be able to handle it just fine. And maybe the routine will be helpful to her.

Good luck to both of you.
I'm Anna btw.... Mamma to 4 girls. Meg (16) Abbey (13) Kayla (9) and Ellie (6)
Ellie has multiple special needs including cerebral palsy, chronic lung disease and severe anxiety.
I hope you'll stick around if you want or need to. We're a small but supportive bunch and we'd love to get to know you better.