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I am still on the "once a month" appointment schedule... so here I am to pop in with my moan. I see a different doctor each time. All I have to say is... I am definitely sick of the doctors' routine glance at paper, frown, and say "It says here you had a c-section last time, but you want to try for a vaginal this time correct?" Always said in a tone of "it's your choice, but I think you are making a bad one!"
Is it really necessary to ask me at every appointment? I feel like "you had a c-section" is constantly being slapped in my face.
If you don't remember, Natalie was breech the entire pregnancy and the doctor neglected to look into it. I ended up laboring with pitocin and no pain meds to 10 cm before they finally realized she was breech. So I am really nervous and concerned that this baby will be breech.
The doctor today checked for position and said baby seemed to be laying side ways. I asked if it was possible to have a simple in office sonogram done close to due date to check position. She said "If you have a c-section that won't be necessary and you won't have to worry about position. But if it's closer to your due date and you still want to try for a vaginal then we will wait until you go into labor and do a sonogram then." I'm so annoyed at the whole "if you STILL want to try vbac..." that I hardly have enough energy left to be mad about them not being willing to do a sonogram before labor. Perhaps I will pretend to have a meltdown at my 37 week appointment and sob about how I'm just so worried about the baby's position so then they will feel bad and pull out the silly machine!
That must be hard having to hear the same thing every month and see a different doctor every time. Hang in there. I would insist they do a sonogram closer to the end of your pregnancy to check the babies position. I don't know why they wouldn't want to do it before you go in to labor.
Have you been to Spinning Babies yet? I can be confusing, but they have a page that helps you determine the baby's position. It's really not that hard. And, once you have done it, it's pretty easy to always know where the baby is.
But, here's one trick that usually works... Feel around your belly. It can be difficult to know all the body parts, but it's not hard to feel out the big lumps. There will be two big ones on opposite ends. The bum and the head. The both often feel exactly the same, and you don't always know which is which. But here's how to tell. Push it. Yup, you read that right. And push hard. Keep one hand on each bump. If you are pushing the bum, you will feel the other bump push into your hand. If you are pushing the head, you wont feel much on the other side, because the head will flex. (Put your hand on the back of your head and push - see, your head moves, but not your bum)
I'm sorry that the doctors are giving you such grief. I would be so annoyed and frustrated. I'd be tempted to write a note, in a big red font, saying, "YES, I want a VBAC, so please stop bugging me about it!!!" And slip it in the chart before they leave. LOL
But, seriously - can you switch doctors? I'm worried for you. No matter how determined you may be, they seem just as determined to not make it happen. It's not too late.
Wendy, Mom to
Kyron, Porter, Donovan, & Jocelyn
Like Wendy said spinning babies is great it got my 34 weeker right were he need to be. But have you thought about finding a more VBAC positive provider? This sounds more like the lead up to the bait and switch. I switched at 34 weeks, and have even heard about women switching as late as 37 weeks.
Just remember one thing you are paying them and would you pay in a restaurant if the brought you the wrong food after they had dropped it on the floor right in front of you? No of course not, So don't let your doctors think that it is ok either!