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I tried for an HBAC. My DH and I sat down, I showed him all the information on Hospital VBACs and all the docs around that I had found info on through numerous websites that wouldn't let me VBAC or had a high c-section rate. I also showed him the few docs that might let me VBAC. We made the decision that if I wanted to VBAC, then we were going to need to ensure doing that by doing an HBAC. Well, in the end I had a hospital VBAC due to needing pain meds and laboring for 43 hrs with a posterior baby but, I really think that if I hadn't spent the first 18 hrs at home with my midwife, I would've never had my VBAC.
Be honest, share your fears and all the info that you can get with your DH. Ask him about his fears with a repeat c-section and with the HBAC. Just talk it out.
Thanks so much Tiffany! We've talked it out some and he's agreed to be open minded and interview care providers (including HB MWs). I'm totally jumping the gun, I guess...we're not expecting yet, I just like to be prepared.
Well, for us it came down to one simple thing. A hospital cesarean, or a home VBA2C. None of the hospitals around here do them. He really didn't have a choice. We do have a back up of a doctor 2 hours away that will even do VBA3C's, but I traveled 2 hours for my first VBAC, and I'm not living in a situation that supportive of that this time. I would basically have to move in with a friend for the last few weeks of pregnancy and take my kids out of school and bring them with me.
So, while he was opposed to it before, he didn't have much of a choice this time.
Wendy, Mom to
Kyron, Porter, Donovan, Jocelyn, Angel Baby Bernadette, & Alice