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Hi ladies... I used to be a regular on this board but left after my marriage fell apart.
BUT I wanted to stop and ask you a quick question... My 23 year old cousin is having her first baby in December. She was asking me about a lot of stuff and mentioned how she really doesn't want to end up having a c-section. I told her some things to look out for, esp surgery hungry OBs. She is interested in a water birth but is afraid she won't make the 1hr drive when she goes into labor (LOL!) Anyways... I know when I was young and having my first baby I didn't know ANYTHING of what I know now...and had I have, I probably wouldn't have ended up with my 2 c-sections.
I want to know if you have a piece or two of advice you could give me to share with her of things to DO and/or NOT to do in order to help her odds of having a vaginal birth the FIRST time. We all know (and she does too) that sometimes C-sections are necessary but sometimes if you've done your research you can be a little better off.
Anyway....what would you have done differently, if you could, to avoid your previous sections? And what is one piece of advice every first mom should know..?
Raean, 27 - single mom to Chloe (1.31.03) & Savanna (8.26.05)
oh wow.... if I knew now what I didnt know then things would have been SO different!
1. Dont let ANYONE bully you into something. If you dont think you can be your own advocate during labour assign someone else to be and make sure they know what you want. also dont be afraid to ask questions.
2. Stay mobile. If the drs require monitoring insist that it is intermittent. If I could have stayed mobile I 100% feel like I would have progressed and avoided a c/s.
3. Know that you CAN do it. I really believe that if you think you can do it you will. I had a LOT of fear/reservations about labour and birth and I think that held me back a lot.
4. Nothing can truly prepare you for labour. It hurts, more than you will believe. But there are ways to deal with that pain and its worth knowing a few of them. Dont rely on just one method because it might not work for you.