[Brenda04]

One of my close friends just had a baby friday, I still haven't gone to visit her I feel bad for not going but I also feel like is something I can't handle right now, I have to go to the store buy her something, wich mean I'm going to spend time at the baby section just feeling bad about myself not having a baby.

I'm happy for her she had a healthy baby girl, but I think I feel more sad about me and DH , he doesn't say much but I'm sure it hurts him too, seeing other guys become daddy's and he just has to watch and smile.

I went to her baby shower about a month ago I think, and when I came back I was feeling horrible, I know the same thing is going to happen when I go see her.

[Bobbi]

wow, i know How that feels Hun when i was TTC my first everyone around me were having babies i men left and right. all of my friends were pregnant and i was going On year number 3.
and i lived close to them so i had to see them everyday.
the month before i actually got pregnant my Friends who just threw away her birth control got pregnant the very first time she tried and then were all sitting (about 6 of us) out side One Night and her husband said bobbi your the only one who is not pregnant. I just smiled but it hurt so bad and that night i just cried myself to sleep and Decided i was done and i was pregnant the next month. it kills me cause i feel like i am going through that agian.

I know how you feel i havent really hung out with my Best Friend since she got pregnant. because i feel like it not fair she started ttc Like 6 months after i did and now she is 6 month Pregnant. I have to see her saturday for my sons baday party and that is killing me.

[MountainMomma]

DH's brother and his wife just had their first on Friday. It was really hard for us because we've been trying for over two years now, and they had an "opps" a little over a month after they started dating. It's just frustrating. An then on Saturday my best friend told me (I already knew because you can't fart in this town without everyone knowing) that he and his girlfriend are expecting. Another opps. She's 2 months along, and they have been dating for 4 months. So why is it two years latter I am still here trying?

I really don't understand why this happens to all of us. It sucks. It really does. Just know that we are all here for you and we understand what you are going through.

[nikas_mommy]

[PlasticFork]

Oh, . I know how bad that feels.

I have seen 14 babies born to close friends and family since we've been TTC. Now, there are four more on the way. One due in July, one in September, one in October, and one in June.

What helps with me, (but then again, I'm an odd person) when buying a baby gift for someone, I just go through and seriously consider what items I like, the price of them, and whether they'd be functional for us. Some how, to me, it kind of takes some of the sadness out if it to treat it as a thrifty business situation. You know, "Well, this item here is extremely cute and priced right, but we'd probably never use it. This one, on the other hand, is a little more expensive, but we'd definitely get good use out of it." That kind of stuff.

You know what else helps? When you go to get a gift for your friend, pick you out a cheap onesie or one on clearance/sale. Buy the silly thing. I don't know where you'll be shopping but places like Wal-mart etc. normally have $3 onesies. Buy one. It won't hurt anything, and when you do get your BFP, there's one item you don't have to run out and buy. You'll be so preoccupied with your adorable little baby item, that shopping for your friend won't be so bad. Try it.

As far as going and seeing her, nothing much helps with that. I love seeing the new babies, but it always makes me end up feeling like crap because I can't have one of my own.

Good luck. I know it's a tough situation, but you'll pull through it for your friend.

[Banned-robswife08]

(((Hugs)))

[Brenda04]

Thank You girls What would I do without you all

Oh, . I know how bad that feels.

I have seen 14 babies born to close friends and family since we've been TTC. Now, there are four more on the way. One due in July, one in September, one in October, and one in June.

What helps with me, (but then again, I'm an odd person) when buying a baby gift for someone, I just go through and seriously consider what items I like, the price of them, and whether they'd be functional for us. Some how, to me, it kind of takes some of the sadness out if it to treat it as a thrifty business situation. You know, "Well, this item here is extremely cute and priced right, but we'd probably never use it. This one, on the other hand, is a little more expensive, but we'd definitely get good use out of it." That kind of stuff.

You know what else helps? When you go to get a gift for your friend, pick you out a cheap onesie or one on clearance/sale. Buy the silly thing. I don't know where you'll be shopping but places like Wal-mart etc. normally have $3 onesies. Buy one. It won't hurt anything, and when you do get your BFP, there's one item you don't have to run out and buy. You'll be so preoccupied with your adorable little baby item, that shopping for your friend won't be so bad. Try it.

As far as going and seeing her, nothing much helps with that. I love seeing the new babies, but it always makes me end up feeling like crap because I can't have one of my own.

Good luck. I know it's a tough situation, but you'll pull through it for your friend.[/b]

You are right I need to make the best out this situation, what matters is that she had a healthy full term baby, and I'm sure she is going to be happy for me when I do.