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  #1  
May 4th, 2008, 10:42 PM
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May 4th, 2008, 11:15 PM
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We have discussed going all the way to IVF but with our egss/sperm, for us having a donor would not feel the same
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May 4th, 2008, 11:36 PM
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No, I think in that case we'd rather adopt.
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May 4th, 2008, 11:54 PM
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If it was just eggs, or just sperm we would consider it, but if neither of us would be the biological parent anyway, we would probably just adopt. Nothing is set in stone though. I really want to be pregnant at least one more time.
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May 5th, 2008, 12:17 AM
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I picked 'no' but not because I'm against donor sperm/eggs. But DH and I would much rather adopt than go that far. We just want a baby, biologically connected to us or not, and I would rather adopt a child that needs a home than to waste the money on donors.
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May 5th, 2008, 04:08 AM
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DF and I want to have our own biological children AND to adopt children. Even if we can have biological children, than we want to have a couple, plus adopt a couple children. But, how far will we go - Right now, we have decided that if our only option is donor sperm/eggs, than we will just stick to adoption.
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May 5th, 2008, 05:25 AM
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It isn't that I just want to be pregnant. Though I do, but if I am going to give birth I want it to be to my and my DH's child. I don't want to have my and some other man's child or his and some other woman's. We will try IUI and possible IVF if we can afford it, but if nothing after that we will look into adoption.
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May 5th, 2008, 05:44 AM
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We want both bio and adopted kids. We have decided that the farthest we'd go is IUD if that didn't work then we'd just adopt.
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May 5th, 2008, 08:44 AM
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I chose Maybe. My DH has said many times that we will jsut adopt, His sperm is perfect so if anything if my eggs are all screwed up ive thought of using doner eggs, I dont know, i guess in my mind i feel like if im still physically pregnant, i dont know i guess it sounds stupid, but i would feel like its a lil more like my baby. I dont know my mind thinks of stupid things. But im not sure yet how far im willing to go
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May 5th, 2008, 12:36 PM
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I chose no because the furthest DH and I have discussed is IVF and if that doesn't work then I guess we'll just probably adopt.
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May 5th, 2008, 02:27 PM
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I picked 'no' but not because I'm against donor sperm/eggs. But DH and I would much rather adopt than go that far. We just want a baby, biologically connected to us or not, and I would rather adopt a child that needs a home than to waste the money on donors.[/b]
Yeah, that's exactly it. Why waste the $$$ when it's not even a sure thing when there's so many little ones out there that need a home?

I HATE to use this as analogy (because I know it's offensive to some), but it's almost like buying from a pet shop when there's tons of rescues that need a home. I can't do it.
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May 5th, 2008, 10:55 PM
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That'd be hard if I got someone else's sperm not my dh. I vote no. i'd adopt if I cannot have kids.

That'd be hard if I got someone else's sperm not my dh. I vote no. i'd adopt if I cannot have kids.
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June 15th, 2008, 11:28 PM
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I picked 'no' but not because I'm against donor sperm/eggs. But DH and I would much rather adopt than go that far. We just want a baby, biologically connected to us or not, and I would rather adopt a child that needs a home than to waste the money on donors.[/b]
Yeah, that's exactly it. Why waste the $$$ when it's not even a sure thing when there's so many little ones out there that need a home?

I HATE to use this as analogy (because I know it's offensive to some), but it's almost like buying from a pet shop when there's tons of rescues that need a home. I can't do it.
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Dredging up an older post...

The thing is, with donor sperm, it might only cost a few hundred dollars (depending on if you do home insems or IUI and on how long it takes). To adopt will cost thousands.

That said, I'm not sure if we would ever use donor sperm/eggs. We might adopt instead. Especially if it were donor eggs, because at that point you are doing IVF for sure and that's very expensive.
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June 16th, 2008, 09:28 AM
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I said maybe---before I had DS, I would have said no. But since I've had him, I know how much he was worth the wait, and I'd give anything to have a 2nd baby-----adoption is expensive and heart-wrenching---I would use donor eggs/sperm before I used a surrogate----at least once that embryo is in my uterus, I know its mine, I couldn't handle losing an adoption or a surrogate baby.
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June 17th, 2008, 07:14 AM
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Shannon you have a point. But still knowing the baby isn't mine and I carried it to term..feels weird. But hey if it came to that point...who knows..
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June 17th, 2008, 08:08 AM
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I wouldn't want our child to biologically related to only one of us, so if it came down to that I would eitherdo traditional adoption or adopt a frozen embryo.
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June 17th, 2008, 03:14 PM
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Shannon you have a point. But still knowing the baby isn't mine and I carried it to term..feels weird. But hey if it came to that point...who knows..[/b]
I agree, it would feel weird. And I'd worry about how Dh would feel too. I just hope it doesn't come to have to make that decision.

I also worry though, about the adjustment for an adopted child and how they are going to deal with feelings like "my bio parents didn't want me". I know most still grow up to be happy and healthy but it is a concern.

Selfishly (or not?) I also want to get to experience pregnancy and have a tiny baby. (If we adopted it would most likely be international and the baby would be older.)

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June 17th, 2008, 05:23 PM
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I think it's great that that option is available as a choice, but for me, if it came to that, I would choose adoption.

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June 17th, 2008, 08:06 PM
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I don't even want to do IVF, so it came down to it we'd straight out adopt! There's plenty of children out there that need families. My friend was in the same boat I am in 4 years ago. Instead of going the fertility clinic rout they just straight out adopted. Yeah their adoptions have been rollarcoster rides, BUT once that child's in your arms it's so worth it! In fact in a few days I'm traveling with her to Guatemala to pick up her second son. This will be the third finished adoption for her from there. She's already got a 5 year old boy and almost 2 year old little girl home. Those kids are a god send for my friend and her husband. Me and DH love them to death as well.
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June 17th, 2008, 09:18 PM
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I don't even want to do IVF, so it came down to it we'd straight out adopt! There's plenty of children out there that need families. My friend was in the same boat I am in 4 years ago. Instead of going the fertility clinic rout they just straight out adopted. Yeah their adoptions have been rollarcoster rides, BUT once that child's in your arms it's so worth it! In fact in a few days I'm traveling with her to Guatemala to pick up her second son. This will be the third finished adoption for her from there. She's already got a 5 year old boy and almost 2 year old little girl home. Those kids are a god send for my friend and her husband. Me and DH love them to death as well.[/b]

Wow really? For some reason I thought I had read that Guatemala had shut down their adoptions recently. But maybe that was temporary or only for those who hadn't started the process?

Just curious, Guatemala is one of the countries I have thought about if we ever do decide to adopt.

How cool that you are going with her!

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