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Well, I feel like I've just been slapped in the face. I've never said a word to him, but I've been so angry at DH because of TTC all this time. He was so sure he was the problem, and I had two kids so why would we think it was me. The doctors just called and said DH had GREAT swimmers.
They wanted equal or greater than :
count ~ 20 million
motility ~ 50%
morphology ~ 4%
The problem is all me! I seriously can't stop crying. I never expected this. We knew that TTC was going to be a struggle because we *thought* he had low counts, but now.... WOW. I feel like such a failure!
I know how you're feeling, I'm in the same boat----DH is an over-achiever, and I'm the problem--we found out at our first RE appt---I was heart broken. I'm better about it now, but it took a little while to come to terms with it ((HUGS)) You are not a failure, none of us are.
After a good cry and a hot shower I'm feeling much better. It still sucks, but the RE really believes that this upcoming surgery paired with Clomid or Femara will help us, so instead of IUI we are sitting the next cycle out (for the surgery) and then will be trying on our own again for a few month.
Honey, you are not a failure. My DH explained it to me this way: if a woman finds out she has diabetes (or any other medical condition, really), does she think that's her fault? It's chemical. Maybe it's hereditary. Maybe this, maybe that. There are so many factors that come into play. So, I laughed at him and said, great. I don't ovulate but, man, can my body produce some insulin!
I'm sorry, hon. Truly.
Jessa, married to Blake these past fourteen years. Beginning the adoption process.
I am glad that they at least got one obstacle out of the way. I hope they're able to get you on a good plan and that we'll soon see your bfp!
Tabitha & Ryan; Married on Saturday, April 17, 2004 -TTC #1 for 7.5 years. Missing our Angels...
Dx with PCOS at age 14.
Miscarriage in June 2006
2 cycles of Clomid 50mg
1 cycle of Clomid 100mg resulting in miscarriage
Dx with Adenomyosis on 1/28/10
Clomid 150mg 4/30(day 3) - 5/4(day 5) Ultrasound on May 10th.
5/10 - Ultrasound showed 2 perfect follies! (15mm&17mm) Ovulation predicted within 6 days! Progesterone check ordered for 5/20.
5/27 - New round of Clomid started, no ultrasound this cycle, 2 more cycles planned on our own. If no bfp, onto next step!
6/27 - Round 3 Clomid 150mg started.
7/25 - AF Showed, starting final round of Clomid 150mg on CD3
8/21- AF Showed, In the process of finding a new RE
*Waiting to see our new RE
girl i know how u feel. we were positive that DH had a low count bc we did an at home test that said he did. well, the doc called back with the results from the SA and boy was I shocked! his count was at 250 million (geezus) and his % of perfectly formed upstream swimming sperm was like 75%. so I was like d@mn, it IS me! i felt bad for blaming him, but then I was like at least then we would have know what to do