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April 13th, 2009, 11:16 AM
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Has anyone ever considered adoption?

My DH and I have been talking about it over the past couple months. We've been talking about how far we are willing to go with fertility treatments and how much longer we can go through this emotionally. We've pretty much decided that we're not going to do IVF, if it comes to that because it doesn't garentee a baby in the end after spending so much money.

We're on an unmedicated cycle this month, but still TTC. We have a consultation with our RE at the end of this week to see where we go from here. I'm classified as "unexplained infertility", and from what I've read online the next step for us would be injectables. With how expensive injectables are, we've pretty much decided to only do 2 cycles of injectables, if that's what our next step is.

We're getting to the point where we are tired of throwing away money to fertility treatments when we're not getting anywhere and no one knows what's wrong with us; all testing has come back perfectly normal. At first it was hard to think of the possibility of stopping TTC and start looking at adoption. But, with all the research and time I've spent praying about it, I'm starting to feel at peace with the idea of international adoption. I just want more children, and it doesn't bother me if I don't give birth to them. So, after almost 2 years of TTC, we've decided that if we're not pregnant by the end of this year, then we're going to start moving toward adoption at the beginning of next year.

Just wondering if anyone else has given this any thought, since we've all be TTC for awhile? Sorry this was so long. But, thanks, if you made it to the end!
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April 13th, 2009, 12:53 PM
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We've thought about it, but haven't had a serious discussion on it, since we haven't tried MA yet, and won't be until like June. But good luck with your decision, and hopefully you won't have to go that way, and you'll get your long awaited bfp!!
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April 13th, 2009, 01:48 PM
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We have talked about it before but not in a serious way. We have talked about how it would be nice to do eventually. Good luck with whatever you decide Allison. I really hope that you won't need to go that route and will get a bfp real soon. *HUGS*
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April 13th, 2009, 01:56 PM
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We have talked about it some, but I would want to do a domestic adoption and he wants international. We haven't really talked too seriously about it either because neither of us is quite ready to give up. I am sure if we had a child together already we wouldn't have tried this long, but for now the plan is to keep on keeping on.

I honestly think if it comes down to it we will just be happy with the two we have instead of adopting.

We have talked about it some, but I would want to do a domestic adoption and he wants international. We haven't really talked too seriously about it either because neither of us is quite ready to give up. I am sure if we had a child together already we wouldn't have tried this long, but for now the plan is to keep on keeping on.

I honestly think if it comes down to it we will just be happy with the two we have instead of adopting.
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April 13th, 2009, 02:52 PM
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After one failed IVF, another IVF try coming up at the end of June, if I'm not pg by Christmas, we're adopting. International adoption that I've been looking into is $$$$$$, I could do IVF three times for what I'll pay for one international adoption, but my meds are covered 100% btwn two plans. Private adoption up here costs about $8k, and there's a long wait for us for 2nd children; so I think our January plan will be to get on a government adoption list (free), and look into private adoption or using donor eggs or donor embies-I don't care what my next child looks like or where it comes from; I want DS to have a healthy sibling. I don't have the heart to foster, I couldn't fall in love with a little one and have them taken away from me to a family who couldn't care for them as well as me, it would destroy me. My son will have a sibling, I'm just not sure how that will happen quite yet. Good luck!!
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April 13th, 2009, 06:12 PM
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We have thought about it, but after only doing three medicated cycles (with one being somewhat successful but ending in m/c), we aren't ready to give up on our own biological child.

Basically, we've kind of laid out a plan. I have my ovarian drilling tomorrow and then I want to do 3 more injectible cycles. If I'm still not pregnant-it will be IVF for as long as we can afford it. I think if that proves unsuccessful, we would look into doing donor eggs.

We are more interested in international adoption versus domestic...I would still like to do foreign adoption, regardless of whether we have a biological child or not.
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April 13th, 2009, 07:29 PM
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We are at that stage now, looking into adoption. After 6 years and the last 18 months of MA, we just want to be parents.

I did a bit of research and have some information coming my way about what do to if you looking to adopt. I'll see where that lead us. Of couse, we will never give up TTC but why not give love to a child that needs it.
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