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May 1st, 2009, 11:52 AM
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I have seen so many people mention going to an RE after only a few months of TTC. Does this bother you? How long do you think someone should wait before they see an RE and seek more serious treatments?
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Miscarriage in June 2006
2 cycles of Clomid 50mg
1 cycle of Clomid 100mg resulting in miscarriage
Dx with Adenomyosis on 1/28/10
Clomid 150mg 4/30(day 3) - 5/4(day 5) Ultrasound on May 10th.
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5/27 - New round of Clomid started, no ultrasound this cycle, 2 more cycles planned on our own. If no bfp, onto next step!
6/27 - Round 3 Clomid 150mg started.
7/25 - AF Showed, starting final round of Clomid 150mg on CD3
8/21- AF Showed, In the process of finding a new RE
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May 1st, 2009, 12:20 PM
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Honestly, it does piss me off. It can take an average of 12 months for a couple with no issues to get pregnant. But a lot of people don't seem to realize this. I HATE seeing a post that goes something like "OMG, I can't believe I haven't gotten pregnant yet! It's been like 4 months! I feel like its never going to happen!" I want to tell them to get over themselves. But then again, I'm probably a little bitter, lol.

And as for seeing an RE/specialist, I feel that you should wait at least a year before taking that action. The exception being that if there is a known problem with either. And I don't mean "with my other dh/bf/df we dtd all the time with no protection and I never got pg, so I must have an issue." That is so not true, it could have been the guy.
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Honestly yes, it bothers me. It can take a while even if both peoples bodies are working perfectly. People need to have more patience. We've been come a NOW society and these people who have only been trying for a couple of months and already with a RE undergoing treatments are making longer than necessary waits for those of us that did give it a good try on their own. We waited for 2 1/2 years and part of the reason we waited so long was because I didn't want to rush into it and take an appointment away from someone who might need it more than we did. (and partly because I was in denial.)
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May 1st, 2009, 01:19 PM
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That's why I love my RE. They will only take people with a known cause or after 12 months of trying. I know someone that isn't married and didn't have a boy friend... but wanted a baby NOW. She started "trying"(having unprotected sex) in January and by March it hadn't happened. She "gave up" and what do you know she got pregnant last month.
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I never thought of it....but now that I do....yeah, it's kind of annoying. As someone already mentioned, we are an "instant gratification" society....many people are not used to having to wait for things. But, I guess ttc is a very sensitive subject, and many people are afraid of the unknown-specifically it they can and will have a baby. So I understand the fear that would drive "normal" couples to seek assistance prematurely.

That being said....it stinks for the rest of us with issues for a few reasons....one big one for me would be scheduling. I can only go to the RE at very specific times due to work, so I'm hoping our RE is really taking the people who actually need to go...
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May 1st, 2009, 10:20 PM
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One one hand, yeah, it does piss me off because some of these girls have NO patience. An acquaintance was asking me about my RE because she was thinking about setting up an appointment. Turns out she didn't even know how to count her cycle...no wonder she isn't pregnant . She wasn't even willing to put 10 minutes of internet research into her TTC before running off to get some Clomid. That makes those of us that really need help look bad. No wonder everyone tells me to "just relax and it will happen."

On the other hand, I had a gut feeling almost from Day 1 of TTC that something wasn't right. I had to wait a full year of trying to see anyone about infertility because our insurance required it, but if I didn't have that obstacle I would have made an appointment much earlier. Somehow my intuition told me we needed help...and I'm sure I'm not the only one who has had that feeling.
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May 1st, 2009, 11:40 PM
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yes it does!! grr..some people have no patience!! it makes me soo mad..like Brandi said..after 4 months of trying they act like it will never happen..sometimes i feel like a dr when i tell them it takes a normal healthy couple a year and in some cases 18 months..but grr...they just go on and on..at a year i wasnt even at the dr yet!!
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On the other hand, I had a gut feeling almost from Day 1 of TTC that something wasn't right. I had to wait a full year of trying to see anyone about infertility because our insurance required it, but if I didn't have that obstacle I would have made an appointment much earlier. Somehow my intuition told me we needed help...and I'm sure I'm not the only one who has had that feeling.
I had the same feeling. Here we are 17 months later...
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May 2nd, 2009, 01:04 PM
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It doesn't bother me when someone goes to the RE soon, if there is a known problem. I think waiting a year, if there isn't anything known wrong, is probably about the right amount of time, unless the person is over 35 years old, then I think after 6 months of TTC.

Yes, it is annoying when someone has been TTC for about 3 months and they're already freaking out because they think something is wrong and want to go to the doctor and get Clomid, even if they've never researched Clomid and know nothing about it. They just think it's a magic pill to get pregnant.
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Yup, it bothers me - but on the other hand we went before the year mark, in our defense we knew about Jeffs infertility already.

I also can't stand the thought that Clomid is a "miracle drug".

Yup, it bothers me - but on the other hand we went before the year mark, in our defense we knew about Jeffs infertility already.

I also can't stand the thought that Clomid is a "miracle drug".
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Yup, it bothers me - but on the other hand we went before the year mark, in our defense we knew about Jeffs infertility already.

I also can't stand the thought that Clomid is a "miracle drug".

Yup, it bothers me - but on the other hand we went before the year mark, in our defense we knew about Jeffs infertility already.

I also can't stand the thought that Clomid is a "miracle drug".
We would have sought help sooner (had I not been so stubborn) because we knew about my pcos. I think that if there is a known problem already, then it's a different story and people should seek whatever help they can. I also think that insurance should not make you wait a year if there is a known problem....does anyone know if this happens?
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If we had known about a problem our insurance wouldn't have made us wait. But the big kicker is...we had a problem but didn't know it because they wouldn't do any testing until after the one year point.
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Here in Manitoba, you have to be TTC for a year before they will refer you to a specialist...it makes me a bit bitter when people get in earlier...but what can you do...we all want the same thing...to hold that special little bundle of joy in our arms.
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Here in Manitoba, you have to be TTC for a year before they will refer you to a specialist...it makes me a bit bitter when people get in earlier...but what can you do...we all want the same thing...to hold that special little bundle of joy in our arms.
I see in your siggie that you go for your appointment tomorrow....just wanted to say good luck and I hope you get some answers and an AWESOME plan of attack!!!!
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May 6th, 2009, 10:23 AM
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It very much bothers me when there is no known problem that a couple can get into an RE so soon when my DH and I couldn't get referred until at least after a year and a half. When I see people who have just started TTC(3-4 months) complaining and saying things like "I just feel like it's never going to happen!" I feel like shaking them and saying "Try doing it for 5 years!"
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Dx with PCOS at age 14.
Miscarriage in June 2006
2 cycles of Clomid 50mg
1 cycle of Clomid 100mg resulting in miscarriage
Dx with Adenomyosis on 1/28/10
Clomid 150mg 4/30(day 3) - 5/4(day 5) Ultrasound on May 10th.
5/10 - Ultrasound showed 2 perfect follies! (15mm&17mm) Ovulation predicted within 6 days! Progesterone check ordered for 5/20.
5/27 - New round of Clomid started, no ultrasound this cycle, 2 more cycles planned on our own. If no bfp, onto next step!
6/27 - Round 3 Clomid 150mg started.
7/25 - AF Showed, starting final round of Clomid 150mg on CD3
8/21- AF Showed, In the process of finding a new RE
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I see in your siggie that you go for your appointment tomorrow....just wanted to say good luck and I hope you get some answers and an AWESOME plan of attack!!!!
Hope you saw my updates in updates...LOL...
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hmmm, thats a tough one. I try to remember what it was like for me during that time... I went to my doc a couple of times between my May preg/july m/c and my dec preg/jan m/c wanting to look into things more because i had/have funky things going on with my cycle (up to 10 days of spotting prior to AF and being told this is normal??? I have now spoken to a specialist who is testing some things for me but said, "who told you THAT was NORMAL????") In the end I had to wait till the January m/c before I was able to get any testing done and it is more for recurrent m/c etc.
but now that I am past the 12 month mark i do find it hard dealing with people who carry on so early. I guess its all relative to our situations.

I too thought that ttc would be harder this time around. I even said it to dh before we got married.... funny how we just know these things sometimes isn't it

(and im sorry, what is a RE?)
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(and im sorry, what is a RE?)

An RE is just short for Reproductive Endocrinologist.
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Dx with PCOS at age 14.
Miscarriage in June 2006
2 cycles of Clomid 50mg
1 cycle of Clomid 100mg resulting in miscarriage
Dx with Adenomyosis on 1/28/10
Clomid 150mg 4/30(day 3) - 5/4(day 5) Ultrasound on May 10th.
5/10 - Ultrasound showed 2 perfect follies! (15mm&17mm) Ovulation predicted within 6 days! Progesterone check ordered for 5/20.
5/27 - New round of Clomid started, no ultrasound this cycle, 2 more cycles planned on our own. If no bfp, onto next step!
6/27 - Round 3 Clomid 150mg started.
7/25 - AF Showed, starting final round of Clomid 150mg on CD3
8/21- AF Showed, In the process of finding a new RE
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May 7th, 2009, 05:39 PM
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An RE is just short for Reproductive Endocrinologist.
thanks so much for that... that was a new one for me.. I guess we just call them fertility specialists (or FS) hehe. gotta love us Aussies.
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