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I think we are going to take a TTC break this month. With the holiday coming up I feel like we need to put TTC aside for the month. Start fresh in 2011. I am so depressed over this whole thing & seriously think it's starting to take a toll on me & DH's relationship. We had sex 3 time this month, my 2 days of + opk's & the day of my first negative. I see a major problem there. It's like TTC has consumed my life, I even got really upset when someone in my PR told us shes pregnant again only a few months after her miscarriage this is her 2nd pregnancy since we started trying along with my husands friends wife who is on her 2nd prengnacy since we started trying. TTC is making me SO bitter & jealous & I hate feeling that way. I'm still hanging around here tho & I would be SO excited if any of y'all got BFP bcuz i know yall have worked as hard as I have. I probably sound SO selfish
Samantha, you don't sound selfish at all. We've all been there at one point or another. And sometimes a break is needed to put things back into perspective for you. I've taken several breaks because it really does consume you. The holiday's are a good time for breaks too...there's so much going on its hard to keep track of everything anyways. I'm glad you'll be sticking around here during your break.
***A HUGE thanks to marriedc for the awesome siggy!***
you dont sound selfish at all, over on the uk mummies board we have had 2 bfp announcments in the past week and while i am happy for them, my 1st thought was "why them and not me" i even cried when the 1st lady announced it, please do stick around
Everyone single lady here knows how you feel, this is why this board is awesome. Noone else knows how all this feels, the deception every month, the never-ending obstacles, the sadness, the distress... It's normal to feel like giving up, it's very hard to deal with. DH and I have taken TTC breaks before and it felt really good. Once we started again, we felt more optimistic and ready! Take a break hun, spoil yourself, you deserve it
And I totally agree with the whole everyone else getting BFPs and not me. It's hard to handle. When's it gonna be my turn??? Sometimes it's like life forgot about us...
Oh and I forgot to add...I've heard of 3 pregnancies in the last week....two of them are sisters...one is 17, the other one is at least married. Then the one I heard about last night...I feel so bad for this child...the baby's father was busted a few months back for having a meth lab in his garage. Fantastic. Thats a great environment for having a baby. Its like...why are these people who can't really care about their own lives get pregnant "On accident" when we all have to fight so hard? Its just not fair.
***A HUGE thanks to marriedc for the awesome siggy!***
There should be a lock on reproductive organs, people who want to have children should go to parenting classes and pass and then their organs are unlocked... Seriously, how amazing would that be? *sigh* A whole lotta stupid and undeserving people would never get children.
Glad you will be sticking around here with us! I have wondered if we needed to have a break from it all as well, but we are pushing on........at least for now.
TTC #1 since August 2009
DH=42.......SA's off the charts!!!
One year on our own=BFNs
Clomid+BDing (4 months)=BFNs
IUI #1 Feb. 2011=BFN
IUI #2 Apr. 2011=BFN
1st RE appt.=May 2011
1st IVF cycle June/July=delayed due to OHSS concern
1st FET Oct. 2011=BFP!!!!!!
WOW, two babies.........
awww you ladies really are awesome. i love knowing someone else feels like i do. tho sometimes i feel bad posting in here because i DO have Brady and I am very thankful for him & i know some of yall are having trouble TTC#1. I don't want to look like I'm not thankful for what I already have I just don't feel like our family is complete.
me & dh are both kinda excited for a break....to have sex just cuz we want to again [: our wedding anniversary is next wednesday and my mom will have brady for the evening so we are going to dinner & do some christmas shopping. then we have 3 christmas party's to go to. <3
I know exactly how you feel and it is so hard. We haven't exactly taken a "break" from TTC but for the last few months after DH's varicocele surgery we have been more casually TTC and it has really improved things for me and DH. TTC for this long is just so stressful.
Almost everyone in my PR either has another baby already or is pregnant (except for the one's who are done or had a tubal or something). I don't really fit in there anymore and although I really like everyone in my PR, it is really hard for me to hear about oopsie pregnancies or how stressful life with 2 kids is....I would love to experience that. And IRL it's even worse. First I had to deal with tons of pregnancy announcements, now everyone has had their babies and now there are more pregnancy announcements. I can't help but feel that nobody else can possibly have been trying as hard/long/want a baby as bad as I do.