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This is sort of a spin-off of eccomi's "Stages of Acceptance of Infertility" thread. I was just thinking how much my thoughts and emotions have changed since we started TTC.
1-3 Months TTC: We're going to have a baby! This is so exciting! A year from now, you could very well be holding a little bundle of joy in you r arms! Discussions with your DH about baby names and getting a family-friendly vehicle. In stores, your eyes wander toward the baby and/or maternity section, sure that you'll be making purchased from there very soon. You refrain from buying the next season's fashions, b/c you'll probably be sporting a little baby bump by then. You feel a strange twinge/nausea/BBs tingling during the TWW. You think, "Am I pregnant? Of course I am. We're trying!" You test. It's negative. You're surpised. AF shows. You're surprised. Oh, well, you're sure it will happen next month.
3-6 months TTC Hmm. This is taking a little longer than you thought it would. You guess you aren't one of those women who gets to say "He just looks at me and I get pregnant!!" Oh well. You head off to the internet for advice, and find yourself on Just Mommies. Now you see why you aren't pregnant yet. You just need to try _________! (Insert OPKs, BBT charting, preseed, mucinex, grapefruit juice, instead cups, Vitamin B6, BDing every other day, etc. here). Now that you know what you are doing, you're sure you'll be pregnant in no time. 4 friends announce their pregancies. Hmmm... it can't be THAT hard to get pregnant. AF shows. Now you're really sad.
6-12 months TTC: Why isn't this working? You're starting to worry. Off to the doctor. Blood tests, sperm tests, legs up in stirrups tests. Whether you find out if something is wrong or not does really matter. You still aren't pregnant. 6 more friends announce their pregnacies. You really stink at baby-making compared to the rest of the world. AF shows. You're not surprised.
12 months+ TTC: This stinks. You're officially infertile. You can't believe it. You should HAVE a baby by now, and you're still trying. You start to feel jealous of people who get pregnant on their first round of clomid.....they're barely infertile! You wonder if it's ever going to happen. You don't discuss baby names. You can't bear to go through the baby/maternity aisle. You buy the next season' fashions without even considering that you might be pregnant by then. 4 friends have their babies and 3 more announce their pregnancies. You feel a strange twinge/nausea/tingling BBs during your 2WW. You think, "Am I pregnant? Hahaha, of course not. Since when did BDing during my fertile days lead to pregnancy? What a joke." You don't test. AF shows. You aren't surprised, but you still cry.
Anyone have anything to add to the timeline?
__________________ Joyful Mama to 2 Sweet little boys
Totally correct! I love fashion and held out on buying so many preseason pieces because I was hoping that I would be sporting a baby bump and not be able to wear them by then. And we kept putting off trips because I did not want to fly during the first trimester. Now after 2 years of trying and a sister-in-law who got pregnant "the very fist time we had sex!" I'm already biniki shopping for our May trip to Puerto Rico.
I totally hear you on the whole clothes thing. For quite a few months I didn't buy any clothes in case I would get pregnant. Then shopping after AF arrived became my retail therapy every month. I think I thought...well as soon as I buy some tight jeans I'll get pregnant and then they won't fit. Well.....that sure didn't work!