Why do they expect me to be happy?

samantharae · #1 June 16th, 2011, 08:00 AM

My MIL sends me an IM on facebook telling me that my SIL is pregnant....why? Am I supposed to be excited that a 29 year old GIRL. Yes i say girl, she acts like shes 15! She still hangs out at the skating rink & hangs out with way younger kids. Her boyfriend is a piece of crap that broke up with her about a month or so ago to be with his ex & when his ex said she didn't want to be with him he came back to my SIL. Not to mention my SIL has scoliosis, so bad she collects disability because she cant work because of it! I just don't understand! I have a husband that's 100% devoted to me & i am to him. Our marriage is stronger than ever & we can't do something that is supposed to be something so easy & natural. I made my appointment for my ultrasound before they give me 100mg of clomid next month. June 29th @ 9am!

Mrs. McFadden · #2 June 16th, 2011, 08:24 AM

There's nothing to understand honey

I'm so sorry

But I totally understand. I cried for a while when I learned my SIL was pregnant.

Never*Giving*Up · #3 June 16th, 2011, 10:22 AM

BandGeek · #4 June 16th, 2011, 06:28 PM

Coley54 · #5 June 17th, 2011, 06:40 AM

Hugs. I wouldn't have been very happy either. I hope you find a little bit of comfort in knowing you aren't alone in all this. People are so inconsiderate sometimes...

samantharae · #6 June 17th, 2011, 07:27 AM

see she made me feel like i was being so selfish. yall are awesome <3

Coley54 · #7 June 17th, 2011, 07:54 AM

talaxtiva · #8 June 17th, 2011, 09:18 PM

I understand. Me and my hubbie have been trying for over 3 1/2 years. And all of my friends and such who just started dating their boyfriend get pregnant without even trying. It is depresing, but hopefully everything works out! Just think, when we all do finally get preggers, think about how much more we will appreciate the baby and cherish it!

Baby dust to all!

daffyangel · #9 June 18th, 2011, 09:38 PM

I can understand for sure. I swear, every time I turn around someone new is pregnant and I used to get so upset, but I think I've become numb to it to the point my only reaction is 'REALLY?!?!' As in...'really, another one? Jeeez, where's my bottle of fertility water because apparently everyone else is drinking from one.'

samantharae · #10 June 26th, 2011, 06:41 AM

So this is a terrible thing to be happy about but she took a blue dye test & seen an evap! She went to the clinic (I don't know why she won�t go to a real dr. she always just goes to the county clinic) and they said she wasn't pregnant.

I wasn't just upset about her getting pregnant I was upset because she isn't in a situation to bring a child into the world health wise or relationship wise. I told my husband that if she wants to have a child so bad she might want to go see a REAL doctor and make sure they say its okay with her back. Also DH's cousin's wife had a little girl when they got married & then they had a little girl. The girls are like a year or 2 apart. One is 2-3 one is 1. Well the mom or DH's cousin shook the 1 year old (thank god the little girl is okay) & they had both kids taken away from them because they couldn�t prove who did it so they charged them both. Well DH's aunt got her granddaughter & now the older little girl doesn�t have anyone and my MIL has her & she�s pretty much begging us to take her but I don�t want to take her from everything she knows & not to mention I don�t know what this poor girl has been through. I asked DH is his sister wants to be a mom so bad why doesn�t SHE take her? That would keep her around all the people she's always known & she'd get to be a mom without harm to her body.

If you read all that, thanks & I hope I didn't lose you. DH's family is nutzo!