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  #1  
October 25th, 2012, 12:34 PM
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I don't know how much more I can take trying.... I need someone, something to lift my spirits.
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Gretchen
Me (43) DH(33) 12 years together - ttc our first together-I have 14yr old DS
Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
Clayton and Colton Born @ 34 weeks 11/22/13
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October 25th, 2012, 01:42 PM
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hi i'm newer around this board...i have been on the 6+ months all day but this is actually i guess where i should be.
I'm so sorry to hear your struggle... My husband and I have been trying for about 14 months now. Its very dishartening...unfortunatly...
But it seems like you have been doing alot to make it happen.... my dr won't even do any tests on me or my husband yet...
it's hard but try not to get down....
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October 26th, 2012, 12:30 PM
Nicholle ttc's Avatar TTC our first!
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I'm so sorry sweetie! I wish I had some magical words that would make you feel better. What helps me, is knowing that everything happens for a reason. Your little miracle will happen, I just don't know when or in what form it will be. Are you trying IVF? I hope that your answer comes soon!

Always know that the ladies of JM are here for you!
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TTCing since August 2011
Me (33)-LP on the short side, but no other abnormalities
DH (37)-slightly subfertile morphology and motility


Natural cycles-August 2011-July 2012
August 2012-October 2012 clomid and progesterone
November 2012-IUI
December 2012, cysts from IUI, on bcp

January 2013-February 2013, long protocol IVF
15 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, 7 fertilized with ICSI
All 7 made it to 5 day transfer, 2 were transferred
Only 1 frozen snowbaby
1st IVF


May 10, 2013, lap sx, Stage 1 endo

June 2013 - MA Round 2
Femara + hcg shot
IUI # 2


FET tentatively scheduled for 10/31/13

Have never seen a bfp.






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November 6th, 2012, 11:40 AM
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Hi,
I feel the same way sometimes its hard not to be discouraged . Praying and sending your way.
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November 7th, 2012, 05:07 AM
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I also feel like this sometimes...this is my 20th cycle...and its SO hard to not feel discouraged.

I hope you find the inspiration/strength/hope you need to keep going...and I will be praying for your BFP!
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TTC our 1st since June 2011

6 cycles of Clomid, 2 cycles injectables, 5 IUIs: ALL BFNs

IVF #1: Starting 5th March 2013 - Praying for my 1st ever BFP!



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November 7th, 2012, 02:16 PM
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Thank you ladies. There was a tiime when JM was really helped me get through this. Then I have gotton to the point where I can't hardly stand to be on it because of all the BFP. I am happy for BFP but I felt like instead of lifting my spirits like it had, it starting making it worse. I took some time off JM but now I feel like I need it again. UGH.
I know I will get my miracle - I just don't know if it will be another baby. It may be something else. It is hard not to have the pitty party specially when your time is running out like mine. Thank you for all responding - it has helped me today.

I wish you all the best. I am sorry any of us have to go through this.
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Gretchen
Me (43) DH(33) 12 years together - ttc our first together-I have 14yr old DS
Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
Clayton and Colton Born @ 34 weeks 11/22/13
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November 7th, 2012, 07:54 PM
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it's been 2 yrs for us and i pray we don't need iui, b/c that money could go towards raisin our baby. not making him/ her. we are concieving naturally b/c i don't wanna do the iui even though he has low count and morphology issues, i'm leaving it in gods hands, i am going to go to a rei for my hubby b/c he wants to see if he can take meds to up his count.
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November 8th, 2012, 09:58 AM
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vitamins can help his count, but there isn't anything that can help morphology. It is the way they are stamped out of the press. My guy has 200,000,000 count but only 2% are shaped right.. Acupunture claimes it can help Morphology but we haven't tried that for him. We have done it for me but not him.

Good luck.
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Gretchen
Me (43) DH(33) 12 years together - ttc our first together-I have 14yr old DS
Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
Clayton and Colton Born @ 34 weeks 11/22/13
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November 8th, 2012, 05:33 PM
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I am sorry you are having a hard time. I will say a prayer for you to get your little miracle soon. This month makes my 23rd cycle. I know it stinks
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November 14th, 2012, 08:12 PM
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I'm so sorry it's so hard!
The super fast 'oh we weren't even trying! hehe' BFP posts really upset me too. I know it's not their fault, and I don't want to rain on anyone's happy parade, but it's hard never being the one with the good news!

It's also really hard to see the women on boards that started trying the same time as me, back again to have ANOTHER baby while I'm still trying for this one. Everyone moves on, and I don't begrudge them their happiness, I just want mine too!

Hang in there, you aren't alone.
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November 15th, 2012, 02:55 PM
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yup - I suppose that just gets depressing seeing others move on and others not. I love it when ladies get to move on becuase I wouldn't wish this on anyone, however, it gets old too. I feel selfish for saying that but please know I don't mean it to be selfish. Wishing you all the best.

I just o'd yesterday. We have this cycle and next cycle to try on our own before they put me on the pill for IVF. I dont' want to have to go the IVF route becuase if it doesn't work and we spend that kind of money I am not sure what kind of state that will put me in or our marriage. Not so confident it will work for us anyways.
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Gretchen
Me (43) DH(33) 12 years together - ttc our first together-I have 14yr old DS
Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
Clayton and Colton Born @ 34 weeks 11/22/13
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