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January 4th, 2013, 09:48 PM
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My husband and I have been letting nature take it course for a year now and figure it would just happen. Well it has been a 14 months and no baby on the way. And I am starting to freak and be upset bc it seems like it is never going to happen!!
And life just seems to want to throw that fact in my face!! I have 5 people that are have become pregnant now!!! And now to top it off a baby was put up for adoption and the family wanted me to take the baby, however due to a long story I could adopt the baby but my friend is...so now I can't get pregnant everyone else I know can and now I have become an adoption agency on top of it. I am so happy for my friend but all I can think is that should be my baby. Not looking forward to the baby shower. All I have done is cry the last 4 days.
I can't vent to my family or my friends bc most of them don't know we are trying to have a baby. My mom and mil already bug me .......can only imagine how they would be if they knew! Seriously my mom gave me a bib making kit and a book of baby names for my christmas gift!! Talk about salt in the wounds!! And my friend that does know said I don't understand bc all I have to do is think about being pregnant and it happens...is it bad at that moment I want to hit her with a bat...yum some of us are not that way!!! And the other helpful peace of advice I got was put your legs Up in the air and it will happen like that!!!! Then today in out town a mother shot and killed her 6 month old baby...breaks my heart i want a kid so bad and you kill your own baby breaks my heart!!
Sorry just had to vent!!! All my life us girl have been told be careful so you don't end up pregnant and now I want it and I can't!!!
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January 5th, 2013, 07:00 AM
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So sorry you're having to deal with all of this. Sending hugs you way.
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January 5th, 2013, 07:07 AM
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Oh honey I'm so sorry!!! Big hugs to you. We know just how you feel here!!
It seems like everyone is pregnant when you are trying. My best friend had an accidental baby last year. At 39. And we've been trying for what seems like forever. That was so hard.

Have you started working with an ob/gyn or your md? It's been long enough that you can and they won't turn you away.
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January 5th, 2013, 02:37 PM
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I am sorry I am in the same boat. This is the 15th month for us of ttc!! I can sympathize with you on the crying and wanting to vent. I am so glad that I found JM so that I have other women to talk to. My DH wants a baby just as bad as I do but he just doesn't understand the emotional toll it has taken on me every time I get a BFN!!!

The week before Thanksgiving I found out that my sister-in-law was expecting. They had only been trying for 7 months (8 at the most!). Just 3 days before I found out she was pregnant, I found out I wasn't!!!! I also have several friends and family members expecting and it is getting harder and harder to be happy for them when I am so miserable myself.

Anyway, sorry for rambling on. I really hope you get your BFP soon
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January 5th, 2013, 03:44 PM
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The you ladies! My hubby wants a baby too but he doesn't get it!! I am making an appointment on Monday I just started a new job and my health insurance just kicked in. That is scary however I am 30 and so afraid dr will tell me news I don't want to hear!! Katy I am so sorry for you!! Can imagine having a sister in law pregnant and be trying. Thanks for letting me vent today was another hard day bc I was surrounded by baby talk but really nice to vent for a minute last night
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January 5th, 2013, 08:05 PM
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Ladies I hope you don't mind me jumping in your thread. My heart hurts for you. A few months ago I was in your shoes. I tried for over two years to get pregnant and nothing seemed to work. I am now 31. I was diagnosed with PCOS and though not as severe as some people I just felt like there was no hope. I spent many nights crying myself to sleep and it felt like everyone around me was getting pregnant. I figured my life wasn't worth living if I couldn't have a kid by 30. I would get so upset when another unwed celebrity got pregnant. My husband was not very willing to do fertility treatments and we really didn't have the money, but he agreed to do a fertility consult. Well I ended up canceling that consult becuause I didn't want depressing news. Two weeks later I found out I was pregnant. I didn't come here to make anyone feel bad or tell you just to have hope/pray because we can do both until we are weak in the knees and it doesn't mean we will get our way, but just wanted to share that I care because I have been there.
Sarah I hated/hate reading news stories about parents who kill their kids or don't take care of them when there are plenty of great people who could be parents. Anyway I will keep you all in my prayers.
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January 7th, 2013, 08:02 AM
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I'm so sorry your going through this, but you have a lot of ladies here who are going through the same thing and we are all here for on another and willing to give advice. Please vent anytime we just need to because husbands don't understand what we are truly going through.

Once you get your new insurance I would see a specialist to start fertlity medication. Good Luck!
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January 7th, 2013, 09:24 AM
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The you ladies! My hubby wants a baby too but he doesn't get it!! I am making an appointment on Monday I just started a new job and my health insurance just kicked in. That is scary however I am 30 and so afraid dr will tell me news I don't want to hear!! Katy I am so sorry for you!! Can imagine having a sister in law pregnant and be trying. Thanks for letting me vent today was another hard day bc I was surrounded by baby talk but really nice to vent for a minute last night
Men don't take the news the same way as women do. It makes me feel alone in it too sometimes.


I'm not sure why being 30 is bad? I'm 31 currently, and my doctor doesn't have any problem with it. They don't really consider you 'older' and trying unless you are over 35.
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January 16th, 2013, 09:52 AM
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Sorry hun! It aint easy! We are on #16 and no luck either. I am fortunate enough to have 2 kids already with no trouble and I know how you feel about others rubbing it in. It hurts! My only advice is to focus on other things and no stress. Life is too short to waste time upset over things you cannot control. I hope some good luck comes your way soon!
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January 16th, 2013, 12:18 PM
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Aww huni,s I know its hard and rli gets on top of you. I feel exactly the same as you and im sending you big hugs. Just wanted to say please dont worry about being 30 I am also 30 and at age 25 i had my eggs tested for quality and reserve and have also just had them tested a couple of months ago and the results hadnt changed at all so you have plenty of time.xx
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January 16th, 2013, 04:53 PM
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We have been TTC for just over a year now. I can relate to everything you've said. I had to run into the bathroom yesterday at work after a friend's sonogram and announcement popped up on Facebook. I have no advice, as I am in the same, completely broken state you are in, but I will keep you in my prayers. Hopefully soon we will both have BFPs! Hugs!
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January 18th, 2013, 09:27 PM
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Hi. we have been trying to conceive for 2 years in Feb. It makes me mad as well to know people who all the sudden got pregnant. My sister announced she was pregnant in Dec. and I could have passed out. I was so mad because she had not been ttc maybe a month. When I see everyone else getting pregnant I truly just want to beat them with a bat because there is nothing that I want in this world is to become a mother and go through pregnancy. Sorry for the rambling but know you are not alone on the way you feel and hopefully it will happen very soon.
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January 19th, 2013, 10:03 PM
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Hey everyone needs to vent sometimes! I am in the same boat as you yet another friend just announced her pregnancy today. We have been trying for probably about 3 years now and i have gone thru times like you are in now. Luckily i finally found a doctor who cared enough to help me and she confirmed that I had PCOS which i was positive I've had for years. She prescribed metformin and 2 1/2 months later I finally had a normal period so I'm actually feeling hopeful. It will get better, and then worse again and than better again. Its a rollarcoaster but we are all here to help each other through the dark times! remember that!
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