[tay'smama]

Hey...I really want another baby but I am gonna miss DD & I's one on one time. I remember how it was when she was a baby and it makes me feel bad. In my head I know I will make time for her and babies take lots of naps so I will still get to have alone time with her but I also remember how tired I was. I really want to have the baby before next summer cause my sis is off for the summer and my mom works less hours so they will be able to do things with tayla or watch the baby so I can do things with her. I am really stressing about this. I really hope this 1st cycle of clomid works. I know its unlikely. Will DD suffer? I know in the long run it's best because when she is older she will want to play with another kid not her mama.

Does anyone else feel this way or did you before you had #2?

[boysmama]

My son was 20 months old when I got pregnant with his brother. I felt the same way, and worried throughout the pregnancy about how the baby will affect him. There will be some jealousy and some extra work for you, but things will be fine. . You will find that you are able to care for 2 kid at the same time. You'll be feeding the baby while reading a book to your daughter. You can also ask her to "help" with the baby, getting you a diaper, singing to the baby...etc. The experience of having a younger sibling is not less important than having your mom all to your self.
Now my boys are best friends. They play together and keep each other company

[tay'smama]

Thanks so much that makes me feel alot better. It must be so cute to watch your boys play together!

[MarieJ]

I was really worried about that, but now that he's nearly two and needs me so much less, I know he'll be fine, and so will Tayla

[MamaAnna]

It will be just fine. Make sure to involve your daughter in helping with the baby so she doesn't feel excluded and starts to develop an early bond. When the baby is napping make sure to do something with your daughter. You could even lay down with her to nap if you're all tired. That will really help her know she's still very much loved. When you're able you can also leave the baby with DH or another relative while you do things like grocery shopping. That way you still get some alone time with Tayla. DD and I do that and she always looks forward to it. Another thing you can do when the baby is old enough is take Tayla out, just the two of you, at least once a month if possible. Go to a restaurant (doesn't have to be fancy), a park, a movie, or whatever else floats her little boat. It will be a lot easier than you think. My MIL looks back and has no idea how she raised 4 smart, healthy, loving children as a single mom, but she did it. Once you have that baby you will just instinctively make it all work, even if you don't know how you did it when they're grown.

[MountainMomma]

I really worried about this after I found out I was preggo with DS. It turned out great though. DD loved being a big sister, and she helped out constantly. We played games during some naptimes, and others I'd just pull her into bed with me and turn on a movie so I could nap too, even if she didn't want to. Usually she ended up napping too though!

[MountainMomma]

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