[TTCagain]

My husband's ex (my stepson's mother) got pregnant quite accidentally a year and a half ago. So now she has a 9 month old baby. (She and the dad were not married at the time, but did get married a few months ago.)

Well, now she is supposedly pregnant again---she was complaining to my husband when he picked his son up last week that she's nauseated and thinks she is preggo again.

They are not really in the financial position to have another baby--they couldn't really afford to have their DD and it has already put a big strain on them financially.

Not to mention the fact that she drank and smoked the whole time she was pregnant!

I'm just so disheartened to hear that she might be pregnant again.

My DH was trying to comfort me and said it's not a big deal, it has nothing to do with us or our chances, and it's not any different than someone else I know getting pregnant....

But it IS, you know? First of all, if she is pregnant, I will have to hear all about it from SS the whole time, and each month it DOESN"T happen for us...ughhhhh....

It was sad enough for me last time--we started TTC about 4 months before her baby was due, and it was disappointing each month I got AF, and then seeing her at soccer games and school events...it was just hard.

I don't want to go through that again. I know 8 months isn't that long in the grand scheme of things--but I just don't get why it's not happening for us? I get so frustrated knowing we are timing it all perfectly and STILL---it's not happening!

[mjtamjj]

I'm sorry you are feeling sad. We have all been through the why's and just can't make sense of it. I felt like that about 2 years ago. I had 3 of my SIL's get pregnant within a year of each other and one had just had a baby less than a year before that. It's hard and we have to believe that it will happen to us. It's seem like an eternity when you want a baby so much and it just isn't happening regardless of the time you have been trying. I hope you feel better and get your BFP soon.

[MarieJ]

((HUGS))

[MountainMomma]

I hope you get your BFP soon hun. I know how hard it can be.

[Vicki...]

((((hugs)))) I hope you get your bfp soon, and I understand how you feel, last year about two months after I started ttc'ing again, my best friend and my sister got pregnant within 1 month of each other, and then because I wanted my sis go to a better doctor this preganancy I had to take her to all her appointments (she does not drive the area her appointments were in, and her old doctor was horrible) I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

[Bakin8th]