[aamom2004]

Hello ladies. I am new here. I have posted quite a few times in am I pregnant, which led me to believe that this is a better place for me to chat with other people. Well, here's my story (sorry it might be long).

I have two kids. My daughter (almost 7) was concieved unplanned when I was 18. Her father and I welcomed her with open arms even though I was on the pill when I got pregnant with her.

My son (4), was concieved very unplanned (don't want to say why I say very because it is a little embarrassing, but just know it was a little too easy). I (not his father who is not the same as my daughters) also welcomed him with open arms. Please don't judge me badly because of any of this. I am older now and want to do things the right way.

Any way, now I am trying for number three (withmy fiance) and have been having trouble for at least a year (wasn't really keeping track at first because I figured it would just happen like it did the other two times, but then I realized it had been quite a few months since we had been trying). I have had some women problems since my children were born - endometriosis taken care of with a laporoscopy and precancer cells taken care of with some procedure of which I cannot remember the name. My fiance has no biological children. I don't know if the problem is me, or if it is him. He does not want me to ask a doctor because he wants things to happen naturally. The natural thing also brings in the fact that he would like me to not use OPKs. I don't know what to do anymore. I thought maybe if I got myself to think that I didn't care anymore, I wouldn't get so stressed and then it would just happen, but that doesn't seem to work either.

Right now I am 2 days late for getting af, but with two negative tests, I am sure my cycle is just off a little from something.

Just thought I woudl give all of you my story so if I want to talk to any of you (which I will) you will kind of know where I am coming from. Thanks for taking the time to read my story. See you in the forums!!

[MamaAnna]

The ladies here are absolutely wonderful. They've been with me through most of my TTC journey and telling them about my BFP today was like sharing it with family. I'm sure you'll find the kindness and support that you need here.

A quick thought... You said you had precancer cells removed. How did they do that? Did they mention whether or not it'd cause your cervix to become incompetent? My cousin just had that done and now as soon as they get a BFP she has to have it stitched shut.

[aamom2004]

Hello. Thanks for the reply.

I had a procedure done, but I can't remember what it is called. They took some wire with an electrical current through it and they described it as corring an apple. It took out the whole center of my cervix. They said that it shouldn't cause any problems, but there is a small chance that scar tissue could block the opening of the cervix. I hope that is not what is happening. The doctor made it sound like there is no way to check either. But I would think if blood from af could get out, shouldn't sperm be able to get in??? I don't know. They did also say that incompitent cervix is a very small possibility, but they won't know until I get pregnant, which doesn't seem to be an option for me. I don't know. It was soooooo easy (okay too easy) the first two times, why is it so hard now that I want to do it right? Maybe I was only mean to have two kids. I felt guilty on the "Am I pregnant" boards because alot of those people couldn't even have their first one.

[mjtamjj]

Hi and Welcome. I'm Margaret we are also ttc number 3. We hit the one year mark in November don't know what other options we will try or if we want to. We had the same ?s about maybe we were only meant to have our two children. The girls here are really good listeners and a great support system. Hope you get your bfp soon.

[MamaAnna]

I know what you mean about too easy. My two children have different dads from trying to avoid. I only found out about my pregnancies after we broke up. Now my DH is the only daddy they've ever known and it took us 13 cycles to get pregnant! Have you talked to an RE to see about getting tests done for you and your DF?

[tay'smama]

Welcome...the ladies here are great and Stephanie is a great Host! Even if df want's to do it naturally you could still get checked out just to make sure nothing is wrong and everything is working properly. DH and I have been ttc #2 for 18 months now...wow that is sad we could have had 2 babies in that time...ugh. My dh is the same he says it will happen if it's meant to but he was okay with using the fertility drugs and opking as long as I wanted to. I just will never understand how men can be so calm and relaxed about something as serious as having or not having a child (whether they are just acting or whatever). Anyway, I just wanted to say welcome and good luck ttc!

[SavaAngel]

You can have tests done and still TTC naturally. To me, OPK's are all in the way you read them - and it is no different than a pregnancy test. You could take a dozen of them and never get a positive just because you missed the timing.

How long are your cycles? If you have had endo in the past, I know that can cause problems TTC. If it has been about a year, I would definitely see my doctor. I started seeing my doctor at 8 months and by our 11th month I was diagnosed with PCOS. We are starting our 12th month this week.

[aamom2004]

You can have tests done and still TTC naturally. To me, OPK's are all in the way you read them - and it is no different than a pregnancy test. You could take a dozen of them and never get a positive just because you missed the timing.

How long are your cycles? If you have had endo in the past, I know that can cause problems TTC. If it has been about a year, I would definitely see my doctor. I started seeing my doctor at 8 months and by our 11th month I was diagnosed with PCOS. We are starting our 12th month this week.[/b]

My cycles are typically 28-30 days. They are pretty consistant. Also, as far as the endo, it was a pretty mild case of it and the doctor really didn't think it would cause any problems since it was so little and he got most of it out. He only did the surgery because I was having pain and he thought I might have scar tissue from my c-section. I had a little of that too that he got rid of. The pain stopped, so something must have worked. He did put me on the pill until we started TTC (the one that only gives you af once every three months) because the less you get your af, the less chance you have of endo returning. Well, who know what is going on now, since it has been over a year and no pregnancy.

I also forgot to mention, I see my doctor every three months because of the precancer cells. He does a once over and a pap to make sure that nothing is returning.

[~InHisHands~]

Hello & I'm Amanda. You know, I got pregnant with my son, Austin, back when I was 18 with absolutely no problems at all. He wasn't even planned, but a surprise! Now that I am trying again with DH (who is Austin's step-dad, not bio dad) I have been having a difficult time. We've been trying now, off & on for 3 years, since I was 29 & to be honest if it wasn't for some of the fertility testing I woulnd't have found out that I have a medical condition which may be preventing me from getting pregnant or at least giving me a harder time. I couldn't get pregnant so we had blood tests done, which revealed that I am hypothyroid. I've been put on medication & have just been cleared to TTC again. I understand to a point your DF's opinion about wanting it to happen naturally but I also believe that God uses doctor's to help people too. I know someone who went on fertility drugs & the very first cycle got pregnant so I don't believe it is a bad thing to use all this technology to try to help you get pregnant. Anyway, my opinion really doesn't count for much - it's really only between you & DF. Oh, I understand your feelings of guilt when you are talking to some that are having a hard time but don't have any kids but you really shouldn't feel guilty, IMO - infertility hurts no matter how many children you do or don't have.

I wish you the best & will pray for you! I hope you get your soon! If you want to talk feel free to PM me.

[MountainMomma]

Welcome to the group! I'm Stephanie (28) Wife to Matt (25) and mama to Sierra (10) and Will (7) from a previous relationship. We are currently on a TTC break of sorts. We aren't trying, but we aren't preventing either. We have been trying for our first together since March of 2006. We have sadly had 5 early loses which finally let me to get further testing only to find out the problem wasn't with my husband like we thought, but with me. Now we are working on losing weight and saving up some money before TTC again (probably a year or so if it doesn't happen on its own between now ant then).

One thing you may need to do is have your endo rechecked. It can and usually does come back. My sister has a more severe case, but she has to have surgery to remove it every 12-18 months. If you are really wanting to not have any testing done, one way to give yourself a better chance is to just start as soon as AF is gone and BD every other day until she comes back.

Good luck with TTC. I really hope that your stay here is short and sweet. I'm looking forward to getting to know you while you are here.