Good morning ladies, and welcome to the new boards! Make sure to read the welcome announcement at the top of the boards. (or click
HERE) If you have any other questions, make sure to let me know.
Marie~ You change your user name through your control panel. Instead of CONTROLS, here that is called USER CP. It's one of the pink links way at the top. Once you are there on the left hand side there in a section called settings and options. In that section (the third one down) should be the option to change your user name.
If you can't find it that way, let me know and I'll check on it. (I changed mine during the beta testing and it isn't visible to me until I am eligible to change it again in 30 days. lol)
ETA: Also PM's are turned off by default here. You each need to go to your USER CP and enable your PM's.