[MountainMomma]

Has anyone ever said something mean or hurtful to you about TTC?
Has anyone ever said something that made you want to scream, even though they probably didn't realize they did anything wrong?

[BornAgainRenee]

Has anyone ever said something mean or hurtful to you about TTC? Yes of course. Don't you already have enough kids? Oh wow are you trying to make a baseball team? Your braver then I am.
Has anyone ever said something that made you want to scream, even though they probably didn't realize they did anything wrong? Well all of the ones above, and honestly I think its the looks more then the words. Its amazing how people look at you when they don't agree with you. After 3 losses they don't even seem to care about your feelings when you have more losses. And my personal favorite was a therapist I was seeing for dealing with my loss of Gracie. "Renee you don't need any more children." IM sorry who is she to tell me that? She doesn't pay my bills, she doesn't take care of my kids, she is not in my life other then helping me with a grief. Needless to say that was about the last appt.

[Mommy2Dakota]

Awww thats terrible Renee! And certainly no real therapist!

I can't think of anything that is so terrible. I get upset when people ask me when I am having another one or announce that they're pregnant but its not really their fault it makes me feel bad.

What makes me angry is more family. As my 'nearest and dearest' I've told them over and over again how long I've been trying, why its not happening and that I am sad yet they still come out with the 'so, when you having another one?' question or some such!
Only yesterday my sis said that! Grrr! She'll say things like 'how's Dakota getting on at school? Now's the time to have another one'

[MountainMomma]

Has anyone ever said something mean or hurtful to you about TTC? Yeah. My SIL and my mother have really put me through the ringer. My mom told me to stop being selfish that I don't need more kids and my SIL well, one of her most recent was "maybe one day I could be a surrogate for you. I mean, we know you can't get pregnant and I obviously have no problem with it." ARGH!!!!!!!! She is constantly rubbing her fertility and my lack there of in my face.
Has anyone ever said something that made you want to scream, even though they probably didn't realize they did anything wrong? Last night at work, one of the kids I work with was annoying me to no end. To the point that customers were joking about taking bets on how long it was going to take me to scratch out his eyeballs. lol The told co-workers that they felt bad for me because they could see that I was trying to be professional but that I really wanted to just tear into him. Anyway at one point, he asked "why are you acting like that" so I told him that he was annoying me, that he needed to go do some work and that if he left me alone, things would be fine. His response...... "Man, I think somebody needs to stock up on some tampons!"

It's a miracle that he is alive today, and an even bigger miracle that I am not in jail. Never in my life have I ever wanted to cause a kid physical pain like I did with that boy last night. The fact is, he likely doesn't even realize that I am TTC or having so many struggles.

[MarieJ]

When TTC#2, I was told by at least a dozen people, "at least you've got one". That was incredibly helpful
My older sister was really useful: "You only want one anyhow, otherwise they're too much work". She had two sons 13 years apart-silly woman!

[MotherFrog]

Has anyone ever said something mean or hurtful to you about TTC?
No, no one says things like that anymore, they consider it normal for me after having 5. What's hurtful is that I have no support but my DH and JM (love you ladies) My mother just brushes it off.
Has anyone ever said something that made you want to scream, even though they probably didn't realize they did anything wrong? Yup, my mother not being there for me when I need her the most.

[Mommy2Dakota]

Seems I am certainly not alone in family being the worse. Maybe its because we expect their support most?

Originally Posted by MountainMomma

Has anyone ever said something mean or hurtful to you about TTC? Yeah. My SIL and my mother have really put me through the ringer. My mom told me to stop being selfish that I don't need more kids and my SIL well, one of her most recent was "maybe one day I could be a surrogate for you. I mean, we know you can't get pregnant and I obviously have no problem with it." ARGH!!!!!!!! She is constantly rubbing her fertility and my lack there of in my face.

Urgh....like you'd even WANT a snake like that carrying a baby for you!