[trying41more]

I should not think so far ahead.. If i dont get pregnant with in the next few months.. Gracie will be 6before she gets to be a big sister this makes me very sad.. i wanted her to be young enough to be able to play with her little brother or sister.. and now by the time the "baby" is old enough to play with her she will be a lot older.. and probably not even want to play with "baby" toys ne more she will not have ne thing in common with her baby brother or sister.. and that hurts me a lot.. considering I doubt James will want another baby after this 2nd one.. a friend of mine just had her 2nd baby and her son just turned 10!! I have this fear that Gracie will be like that.. I just wanted her to be young enough to be able to play with her sibling.. instead of feeling like she has to play with baby toys Last night at Awanas I saw 4 pregnant women.. and I just got super jealous.. wishing it was me.. and i try not to get jealous of others..

[BornAgainRenee]

I don't know if it helps or not, but my kids play together all the time, and they range from 18 to 6, and the 18 year old plays with the 6 year old. I believe its all in how important you make the family. I was raised to kinda do my own thing, hence I am not close with my sister who is less then 2 years younger then I am.
I look at Daniel who is 6 now and I feel the same way. He will be at least 7 before I have another baby.

[~InHisHands~]

I do understand. Austin's almost 14! I wanted this a lot sooner than it is happening!

[Mommy2Dakota]

Same thoughts here Jade. Dakota's gonna be 4+ or 5 before another is even born and thats only IF I get pregs somewhere in 2010. My sisters's kids are 3yrs apart so this year I was thinking OK OK, it won't be so bad...but of course time keeps ticking and I am no closer to achieving that bfp with my darn improper hormones.

However..I did read something interesing yesterday in the newspaper. It was saying how firstborns are effected by having a sibling come along and 'steal' attention etc and that the firstborn is usually more intelligent for having that 'undivided' attention before no2.
Now, I am not saying I totally agree with what this study concluded (it said lastborns were more carefree and social etc....but I think my sis is more so than me)...but if you look at it like this: If you had both your children very close you wouldn't have given all that you have to Gracie. By having a larger gap both your children will have a more equal upbringing and I agree with Renee that older children WILL still play with them. Maybe not in the same way, but it does mean tantrums and squabbles over toys are less likely! And you know how much WE have done with our children? Well, an older child will give that same level of intelligent play which will boost the younger childs learning PLUS it could be good for the older child to be able to feel that younger childhood freedom through play too.
I don't know about you but even as an adult I have never felt fully 'grown-up' and cherished my childhood. It can be very theraputic playing with toys and play doh again! For an older child, who has to concentrate at school and is expected to show more responsibilty may feel a release to have an excuse to 'play' again.

I can also imagine both Gracie and Dakota will be at an age where they enjoy bossing the younger one and playing at 'being mummy' themselves!

[trying41more]

Thanks Jo.. You always think of the best way to put things.. I have thought about how Gracie will be more of a help.. and also when she is in school during the day that will give me my one on one time with the new baby.. and so I am kinda glad we hadn't had a 2nd baby yet.. I think the time will be nice if I am able to spend my one on one time with a new baby..like when Gracie was a baby.. she had a lot of the one on one time with me.. however.. I do hope that it doesn't take much longer.. and like u said.. it's a IF i get pregnant in 2010.. Gracie will be 6+ before the baby is born.. unless IF i get pregnant between now and March..then she will still be 5..almost 6.. but even if i did get pregnant this month i would be due in Sept. and she will be 5 1/2 since her birthday is in Feb. (She will be 5, Feb. 19 2010)..And like last Chirstmas.. I hoped that would be Gracie last Christmas "alone" with out a sibling to share it with..this year.. but here it is another Christmas and no sibling to share it with.. maybe next Chirstmas either having a baby before Christmas.. or atleast be pregnant.. However.. we are about to start a new year.. 2010.. new year.. new beginings.. so I hope 2010 is a lucky year for a lot of us