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Do you have a backup plan? If this journey doesn't turn out the way that you want it too. If there are no more children in your future, what then? Will life pretty much stay the same, or do you have a backup plan?
I think that for Matt and I the situation is probably slightly different than most of you. My kids are a bit older and so that makes things different. Matt and I sat the other night and talked about our 10 year plan. That involves finishing school, either finding decent jobs or possibly opening a business, and beyond that .......well that depends on our fertility. If another kid shows up within the next 7 years or so, then the 10 year plan includes definitely giving owning our own business a real shot, buying a small farm here in the area and basically settling down right here in this small town for the rest of our lives.
The backup plan though, is a bit different. 10 year plan involves finishing school, getting a decent (short term) job for 5 or 6 years at best, getting my kids through school (9 years till the youngest graduates if all goes according to plan). Once they are off to school, then we are considering moving to a city. We'll rent out the house instead of selling so that we can come back if we choose. Whether that city is Des Moines (1 hr. away) Kansas City (2 hr. away) or even Chicago, New York or San Diego..... well that remains to be seen.
Oh, DH and I will both freely admit that if he would be the one to pass away first I will totally be the crazy cat lady. I didn't realize I was doing it, but after each of my first 6 miscarriages, I brought home a new pet. Yep, three cats, three dogs....each arrival corresponding with a miscarriage. There would be more but he put his foot down and said absolutely no more. lol
I've only very recently started thinking about this stuff myself. I think it will likely mean living in highrise apartments with fancy furniture and traveling alot too! lol All the things that I would not do if I had a baby instead.
To be honest I have not even considered what our life would be like if God does not bless us with anonther child I am not point where I can mentally do that.
Ditto this. We will adopt if we can't have any more biological children. But I really am not at the point where I can even allow myself to think of only having one child. I truly believe that SOMETHING will work out.
__________________ Joyful Mama to 2 Sweet little boys