[OurSweetLabs]

At what point did decide this board might fit you ?

[MarieJ]

I had moved here when TTC#2, and found I didn't fit in the TTC boards since I'd already had a child. I was in denial about secondary infertility for a long while, also. At what pt do you call yourself infertile after having had a baby?
I know LOTS of secondary infert moms in my PR's and IRL and they just don't seem to fit in anywhere, just like I didn't. Maybe go head hunting?

[OurSweetLabs]

I have been doing some head hunting that they act like they didn't even get my PM, LOL

[MarieJ]

I honestly found secondary infer harder to admit than primary, you just feel guilty for even admitting you long for another when so many can't get their first.
And then you "give up", but haven't really given up totally-tough board to have to belong to.

[SoCaliMommy]

I got pregnant after dealing with secondary infertility after a little over 3yrs then ended up loosing that baby. I am now pregnant again hoping for a pregnancy that sticks

[wishfulgal]

I joined this board after only 6-ish months of TTC #2, after we got DH's terrible SA, I figured this would be a long (maybe never-ending) journey. I figured I might as well take off my coat and stay awhile

I do wish this board was more active. For me, I "qualify" to be a member of so many boards on here. I feel the most at home in here, my PR, and in TTC after loss though. I'm not sure why more people don't post here. Like Marie said, I think it is hard for people to accept the label of "infertility" after having a child. I know I was in denial for a long time.

[joanna26]

I honestly don't know if I even fit here I haven't been diagnosed with infertility issues yet. But no where else seems to fit. I love my PR but don't want to subject them to my issues TTC #2 constantly. I posted in TTC for a while but I honestly can't stand to be in there anymore. Too much excitement and happiness over TTC and too many BFPs for those trying for a month or two. Does that make me sound bitter The TTC for 6 months + board is pretty inactive. And so it goes.

I do think it would help if this board were more active though.

[readyfornumber2]

I agree. I wish the board were more active. I also post on other boards, but most of those, the ladies are TTC their first. I already have one, TTC #2. I think the ladies on here are great, hoping for more ppl/things on here soon!

[OurSweetLabs]

Originally Posted by joanna26

I honestly don't know if I even fit here I haven't been diagnosed with infertility issues yet. But no where else seems to fit. I love my PR but don't want to subject them to my issues TTC #2 constantly. I posted in TTC for a while but I honestly can't stand to be in there anymore. Too much excitement and happiness over TTC and too many BFPs for those trying for a month or two. Does that make me sound bitter The TTC for 6 months + board is pretty inactive. And so it goes.

I do think it would help if this board were more active though.

YOU are more than welcome here.

[irishblessing]

I lurked here but never posted. I guess I just wasn't sure if I qualified as I hadn't actually gotten a diagnosis of "infertility". We conceived our first in basically a one time slip up where I ovulated late, so I figured the second time would be easy. Nope! Took us 17 cycles, but it did happen, so I'm not sure if that even counts now as secondary infertility?

[Mod-LilSunshine]

I lurked a few times...but was in denial. DS (and my last pregnancy) were both achieved in no time at all, so I didn't think we were 'infertile'. Now that we have the title "unexplained infertility" I feel more like I fit. Plus, most of the other ttc boards don't seem to fit me too well right now where I'm at.

[hubshope]

I just got back on Just Mommies today after a few months break. I used to post on TTCAL and TTC 6+ months occasionally but felt "guilty" that I had two children and many of those ladies did not have any...so who was I to complain or be depressed each time AF arrived. BUT, at the time I hadn't been trying in "consecutive" months for long enough...I got that big idea from my ob/gyn. Now I've been trying every single month and stil no luck...so while I'm not diagnosed by any doctor, this feels like the only board that will fit.

And I guess I've just gotten so down about it now, and also instead of being hopeful every month I'm finding myself resigned to the idea that I just won't get to have another baby....I just felt a need to reach out to people who would listen and/or understand.

I hope it's okay that I"m here.