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Ok ladies this is not an uncommon topic for us so I am seeking some advice/support or whatever. Obviously no dates are really ever set in stone, but supposedly DH is going to deploy when I am 38 weeks pregnant. I am not getting my hopes up that LO will arrive before he has to go. We want a healthy baby above all. Anyone dealt with a deployment so close to their due date? How did you handle it emotionally?
I am also bummed because he was going to take two weeks leave during deployment, but they changed his deployment location and he won't be able to leave now It also kind of irks me that he is leaving two weeks earlier than a majority of the other guys. Just venting about that, we've all gotten the shaft at some point. I wish it wasn't our turn to draw the short stick
We drew the short stick this tour, my DH missed the last 21 weeks of my pregnant, the birth of our last baby, and Noah's first month of life. It freaking SUCKS ... totally not worth it IM[bitterly]HO.
My best advice? Get a digital camcorder. Record everything you can because I know my husband has only survived with his sanity because of short videos and pictures. Sign up for gmail and use Picasa for their web albums. Get your DH a laptop if he's able to use one at his deployed location ...
Surround yourself with your family if you can - if not, then learn the contacts within your husbands command - the spouses, the commanders, the lower ranking guys who will come mow your lawn, etc.
Thanks, DH has a laptop and hopefully we can webcam. We have an older camcorder that my sister gave me, so let's hope that works. I am going back home for about four months of deployment. I am in a wedding one month after my due date, that will be interesting.
I did have friends here to help do stuff, but most of them are going back home for deployment for my similar issue or we lost a couple to PCS'ing. Luckily we don't have a lot out here to take care of.
Tony deployed 3 weeks before Evan was born and I wished so much that he could've been here for his birth. He was gone for training for 5 months before that though, so he basically missed most of the pregnancy too. He isn't able to come home for any R & R so he won't meet Evan til he's 6-7 mos old. So, I am definitely in the same boat and wanted to offer you some big HUGS, it's a tough thing to go through without your hubby.
If he has a laptop and you can webcam then that will be a wonderful way to keep him up to date. My DH is in a really remote location so we can only depend on snail mail and it sucks! I think making little videos for him or for him to see when he returns is a great idea. Take LOTS of pics and I'm sure you'll have no problem keeping busy with a newborn!