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My husband was recently diagnosed with PTSD. We've been thinking for a while that he had it but had to wait and wait and wait for the DR to refer him to get the testing done. We move home to FL because the Army is medically retiring him and the day he goes to the VA to get his benefits and stuff they test him that day. Turns out he has it and its worse then what we thought.
How can I help him deal with this? He's having nightmares everything night. He wakes up screaming so loud that it wakes up our kids and freaks out our 18 month old son so bad that some days he won't go to daddy.
He's temper is shorter then normal. He's quicker to yell at our son. He's even hit him a few times. Which I do not approve of. Troy did not deserved to be hit. I did yell at him but I'm trying to be understanding. I know that if he wasn't dealing with this he wouldn't of done it. He's never hit him hard enough to leave a bruise or mark. Just enough that it hurts for a minute. He usually apologizes and regrets it instantly.
I won't allow him to drive because he gets road rage so bad. Not to mention he was a truck driver in the Army and sometimes he has flashbacks to being over there while he driving. Thankfully never when the kids were in the car. So I refuse to let him drive and he hates not being able to.
Like I said before I'm trying to be understanding but besides that I'm not sure what else I can do. He is suppose to go to counseling for a while and see if it helps. I hope it does. I really do.
Is in-patient treatment a possibility? It sounds like he needs to go somewhere to get some professional help and really focus on that, especially if he is endangering himself or your family. Hitting is hitting - doesn't matter if it leaves a bruise or not, an 18 month old doesn't understand anything other than his Daddy hurt him - kwim?
I haven't gone through this, but I wanted to offer you tons of hugs and support. I can't even imagine how hard this must be on your family.
Did they put him any medications? If not, he may benefit from some, especially at night. While they dont fix the problem, they can help tremendously in dealing with the symptoms.
As far as what you can do....well, sorry to say but things will probably get worse before they get better. Especially when you move to FL. Do you best to keep him engaged. Sitting at home and withdrawling from the world will do him no good. Try to help him find a job right away. Its a tough situation but you are certainly not alone.
They haven't been able to give him any meds yet because his PTSD Dr and his normal Dr are having a hard time finding something that will help and not react with his other pills he's taking.
He hasn't been able to get a job because his case manger and his case mangers boss at the VA thinks that he may get 100% because of his back, disease and now the PTSD. So they told him he can not work until we find out. If the VA gives him 100% non workable and he has a job then we won't get any money. So he's been sitting at home. He has gone out and worked on his car (he's fixing up a camaro) and it's been helping him. We go over my cousins house and he'll do laps in the pool and he comes out smiling and in a good mood for the rest of the day.
He has his first scheduled counseling at McDill AFB in two weeks. After that he can be referred to a civilian dr who's closer.