[littlered]

the pass two days i have been alittle sad. i found out yesterday that mike was keeping a secret from me. now it isn't a bad secret don't get me wrong. but i just don't like secrets and we had made a promise to each other that we wouldn't keep secrets from each other. several months ago mike went though this place to consolidate all the credit cards bills. i didn't know nothing about it. i understand why he kepted it from me because he feels like it is his place to take care of me and he didn't want me to worry about it. but it all came out yesterday. what has me sad is that he kepted it a secret and he didn't tell me before he left. secrets always has a way of coming out. and i am so scared that he is keeping something else from me. and we are not face to face to talk about it. i wish we could be together to talk about it. i do hope he gets to come home for a visit soon. ( he said there was talk of him getting to come home for the 4th of july. he is still in the states right now has left the county yet.) so we can talk about it . i didn't sleep good last night because i had all this on my mind. but it feels so good to let it all out. i have wrote mike a letter about it all but it still was bottled up. and i am glad i letting it all come out.


thanks for listening

I really wouldn't worry about it too much, money is a really hard thing for some people to talk about some times. While taking a class a while ago the instructor said something that was kind of funny , she simply said people are much more willing to talk about their sex life than their finances, and its SO true. I know married couples who don't know each others finances. And although it probably does upset you that he kept that from you, it probably bothered him that he had to use a debt management company and he may had been embarrased by it and that may have been why he kept it from you. It really is not a bad thing, he just probably really wanted to fix his finances so it would be something that you guys didn't have to worry about.
As for him keeping other things from you, its probably unlikely because if he did that so that he could probably take care of you, then he probably has nothing to hide from you (other than that).
If your worried then just tell him that you are concerned about it, and talk to him about it.

[mrs_catty_marie]

I don't think he meant to hurt you. Men really do feel like they need to take care of us. However you two definetly need to talk it out. Good luck and I hope he will be able to come home for awhile.

[littlered]

oh i know he didn't do it to hurt me. and i knew we was having problems with the bills. because we had done had a talk about it. and he promised me that he would never keep anything from me at all.