We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
Okay... so I've known my DF for about 15 years, known him through 4 deployments now, but this is the first one we're actually a couple for and I found out 4 weeks after he left that Im pregnant with our 1st baby.....
He should be coming home in approximately 2 months and I was okay with having whoever there when he came home, but no one was allowed to stay at the house with us. Thats when I would get my alone time in! I havent seen him since we found out we were pregnant and he told me last week his mother wants to come up a few days before he gets home. I said thats fine, but she's staying in a hotel. He agreed....
well People have started telling me that she should wait to come up and give him a few days home with me before being suffocated by his her. I looked at it as, he's the one coming home, if hes okay with her being there, thats his decision, as long as she doesnt stay with us!!
Well tonight she made some very off the wall comments and I am livid! She wasnt rude to me, but she made some comments that really offended me and now I dont want her coming up at all! I know I cant prevent that, but I really want to tell DF that I dont want his mom coming up right away.
I think it is completely reasonable.. DH should be on your side.. so, if he is ok with your decision, he should be the one to break it to his mother.. I guess I am really lucky with that because my MIL loves me and the only thing I have to worry about is her wanting to go shopping all day..
Usually we get along great... but DF did try to tell me she enjoys drama.. so I figured as long as she didn't cause drama we'd be fine... well she started stirring the pot... so I dunno.. Im waiting for him to come online so I can get his opinion on it..
This is my families rules... no family member is allowed to visit during homecoming. My life and my sons life change when my dh is away... not the rest of the family. My husband and I take a trip to our hometown about a week after homecoming.. that is the time for moms, dads, sisters, etc. This has worked well for us.
I understand where you're coming from. But I think you need to tell your husband how you feel. And let him decide what to do. Maybe he just needs to talk to his mom.