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DH's ship is gone more than it's home... even after a 7 month deployment, they were home 3 weeks before the ship left again and then they were out 3 weeks, home a week, gone 2 weeks, home a week, gone a month and so on. When he left for the most recent 7 month deployment DS#2 was 2 1/2 and had a very difficult time with daddy leaving. He threw violent fits and it was just really hard. So now DH has been home for a couple weeks because he has to have surgery and stayed behind. He is criticizing me on my disciplining of our boys. This drives me up the wall especially since he is such a sucker. He is the one that wont follow through with punishments and will give the boys all sorts of junk like candy so he can be the good guy at all times of the day. I'm 7 months pregnant and some days don't have the energy to get up and deal with the boys so I will ask DH to deal with a situation... then he will say "this is why they don't listen, because they know you wont follow through." I got so mad at him today because as I'm laying on the couch with our youngest, DS#2 starts acting up and I asked DH to deal with him. He told me that I wasn't following through and blah blah blah. I wanted to scream... he was already up and it didn't matter who got him, it only mattered that he stopped. It takes a lot more for me to get up then him given the belly and I was laying all nicely, cuddling with DS#3, I didn't think it was fair for me to have to get up. DH has no idea how much I do while he isn't home and that I'm never able to just be the good guy. Anyways, that's my vent!
Wife to Anthony since March 2004 and Mommy to 3 boys(Blake-6, Owen-4, & Vinny-2) and a little princess, Kara
that has to be frustrating! Im sure with him being gone so much he doesnt want to be seen as the bad guy, but its not fair to you!! Especially because you're pregnant, you could use the help when he IS home!!