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  #1  
July 16th, 2004, 07:10 AM
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I knew a girl in high school, a really good friend of mine actually, and at the beginning of our senior year, she and her boyfriend of about a year or more got pregnant. She had an abortion. When she told me I was supportive of her decision (at the time I never wanted kids and I was okay with abortion - times have changed and so have my opinions on the subject). She did it at planned parenthood, and for some reason even though she was 17 and her boyfriend was 20-something, planned parenthood did not have to get her parents permission and/or even TELL them. I guess that's so girls won't resort to using a coat hanger (TMI) ... but still ... it's scary to think my son could get a girl pregnant at 16 and I wouldn't even know about it. On the other side of the spectrum, I knew 1 girl that got pregnant in 9th grade at 14, 2 that got pregnant in 10th grade at 15 (1 went on to have ANOTHER baby at 17 in 12th grade), 1 that got pregnant 17 in 11th grade (with twins and I've heard she's pregnant again with another set of twins at 19/20). Countless have gotten pregnant senior year and after graduation (mind you I graduated in 2001). All of them have kept their babies.

Anyhow!

Now, looking back, I wonder what would I have done if I had gotten pregnant while STILL in high school (I got pregnant about 7 months after I graduated). I did have unprotected sex with 3 different guys (I know, I'm a skank, LOL) and so it is entirely possible that I could have ended up pregnant at 16 and in 11th grade.

So, today's topic is - if you had gotten pregnant IN high school, would you have kept the baby or aborted it? Or even put it up for adoption?
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July 16th, 2004, 07:22 AM
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Originally posted by Ashley3303@Jul 16 2004, 08:10 AM
So, today's topic is - if you had gotten pregnant IN high school, would you have kept the baby or aborted it? Or even put it up for adoption?
I honestly think I would have kept the baby. As hard as it may have been to have done it alone (since my parents would have killed whoever got me pregnant, LOL ), I would have kept the baby. Not saying it would have been tough, but I don't think that when it came down to it I could have aborted or given the baby up for adoption.
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July 16th, 2004, 07:43 AM
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I WOULD HAVE KEPT MY BABY IF I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL AS WELL EVER SINCE I WAS LITTLE I LOVED BABIES SO ITS NO REASON WHY I GOT PREGNANT IN SEPT 98, ONLY 3MONTHS OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL , I JUST KNEW I WAS DESTINED TO BE A MOM AND WASNT ON ANY TYPE OF BC AT THE TIME SO YES I WOULD HAVE DEFINATLEY AS I LOVE BABIES!!!!!
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July 16th, 2004, 09:35 AM
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I would have kept the baby.

I'm like you Ashley. All of my friends except 2 of us got pregnant in high school or just out. And one of my best friends was going to have an abortion at 16 with twins...but she miscarried. When I was in high school, I wanted a baby really bad..just always knew it was best to wait.
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July 16th, 2004, 02:31 PM
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If I got pg when I was in high school (no way it ever would have happened, I was a virgin until I was married), then I would have given the baby up for adoption. I do not believe in abortion, but I know that at that time I would not have been ready to have the responsibility of a baby or the way to support it. So, I would have given the baby up because I would have wanted what's best for the baby and I know that it would be better for it to have a two parent home that can love and support it finacially.
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July 16th, 2004, 04:39 PM
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Then abortion, simply because I did not understand. Today I am a biologist and a christian one at that so my hcoices are far different.
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July 16th, 2004, 04:44 PM
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I do not believe in abortions...period! That is taking a life through my eyes!
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July 17th, 2004, 04:32 AM
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Its kidna hard to say that you would "for sure" do something or not if you have never been in that situation.

There are many things I wish I could go back in change, that I think (now that im a little older) that I would have done differently.

My parents would have been supportive in any decision that I would have made..They would have been extremely dissapointed in me though.

However, I have had friends that have had AB and some that have kept their babies.
I know for a fact, that in Birmingham, AL (where I grew up) You have to have a guardian with you.

At least this is what they told one of my friends that had one. She called around and every single one said that she had to have her parents with her...or a guardian..and she was 18l In fact, I think she was close to 19. I dont know why some places may be differnt. I just hope that in the case that something like that happens when my children are older, that they would have it in their hearts to at least come to me for either advice, support, help...whatever it would be.

I graduated (2000) with a bunch of girls that were pregnant..For some reason our senior year it seemed like it was in the water..
I thinjk there were 7 or 8 in my class pregnant.

One girl in our class got preggo in 8th grade.. then agin in 10, then again in either 11, or 12 grade...SHe had three beautiful babies!


But anyway like I said up top, Its extremely hard to say that you would or would not do something unless you have been put in that situation.
I love children...and I always have..but then again their is so much going on when you are in school..that if something like that were to happen..you ahve no idea what would be running through your head at the time.

However..I am pro life choice on this...ITs weird..and dont even know if you can be both..Iam totally for the rights of a women to choose because it IS her body, but I dont support abortion..even though in high school i was always there and praying for my friends that chose that option

now that i have children (1 and one on the way) i couldnt imagine ever NOT having them!
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July 17th, 2004, 08:34 AM
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during the pregnancy I probably would have been thinking adoption but once I held the baby doll I probably would have kept it.
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July 21st, 2004, 09:00 PM
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I would have kept it. To me that situation souned like abortion was being used as a form of birth control. Thats just me though.
And for me Ive been with my husband since 10th grade and we lived together before I graduated high school. It would have been tough though.
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July 22nd, 2004, 01:32 AM
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I got pregnant (I was not that far along at all) in my junior year of high school and did have an abortion. Alot of it was my parents pressure, and looking back now and knowing what I know now about raising children, I don't regret at all what I did.

After having my son, I personally know that I couldn't carry a child nine months and then give it up for adoption and I know that there is controversy as to when it is a baby whether it is seconds after conception or the sign of the first heartbeat. But I think that it was the right decision for me.
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July 22nd, 2004, 04:27 AM
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Yup--pro choice then, pro life now
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July 23rd, 2004, 01:32 PM
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I am a Christian, and I see every life as a life God creates, and means to be on Earth. I was a Christian in high school as well, and was brought up in a Christian home. It is not my job, or anyone else's to play God, in my eyes, and abortion is murder. I would have definitely kept the baby!
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July 23rd, 2004, 01:42 PM
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I got Preg. right before my graduation and if I did become preg even younger, I would of kept the baby. But on the other, I believe in abortions if you were to be raped.
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July 24th, 2004, 01:06 AM
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I WOULD HAVE KEPT THE BABY ! I WAS BROUGHT UP IN A WAY THAT IF I WAS ABLE TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE AND GET PREGNANT I NEEDED TO BE WOMAN ENOUGH TO BE A MOTHER. I THANK MY PARENTS TO HAVE TALKED ABOUT THIS SUBJECT JUST WHEN I STARTED 6TH GRADE. I KNEW WHAT SEX WAS AND THAT I COULD GET PREGNANT .
HOWEVER, I DO AGREE ABORTION IS OK IF YOU GOT RAPED AND GOT PREGNANT.........
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July 25th, 2004, 03:27 PM
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i had a friend that had a abortion in high school, my close friend. i told her i would stand by her either way even thought i told her if i were in her shoes i would keep the baby...i even offered to help her out with the child. i am still friends with her to this day and we have never talked about it since then. i know she probably regrets it a little but at the same time she did stuff a normal girl after high school wouldnt do. she joined the Marines and worked in the prison. I am sure she could have done that with a baby but it would have been harder. me personaly i would have kept the baby, i dont believe in abortions.
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August 10th, 2004, 09:04 AM
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Nope I got pregnant with Abigail while I was in High School. I finished up quickly in homeschooling. During my pregnancy I met Brian (had divorced EXDH) and we married soon after Abigail was born and have been happy ever since!
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August 19th, 2004, 05:12 PM
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I got pregnant when I was 15 and had just started 10th grade, captain of the Varsity cheerleading squad, loving family, great friends...yep that was me. My Mom was stunned (she was in denial that I was *active*) and my Dad hinted that he thought I should have an abortion. I refused and now have a beautiful 9 yr old boy who is the light of my world. I have never regretted my decision to keep my child, and I was never, ever sorry for myself. God made me to be that little boy's mother and I thank Him each and every day for that gift. It was difficult for me being 16 and giving birth, going back to school 7 wks later (he was born in July), breastfeeding him (pumping in the bathroom at school and leaking all over in class, lol), and graduating early so that I could spend more time with him. It was tough but every time he smiles at me and tells me that he loves me makes it more than worth it all.
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August 19th, 2004, 06:50 PM
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I would have kept it...I feel that if you can lay down and make it,take the responsiblilty...JMO
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August 20th, 2004, 02:33 AM
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I was 15 when i got pregnant with my first son. I stayed in school, and graduate just like i was suppose to. My now dh was a very supportive person, and we really was/are in love. I know i got lucky because alot of guys would leave. but i don't think even if you would be a single mom that justifys an abortion. That baby didn't do anything to get where it is. Girls/Woman need to relieze that abortion is not birth control and either keep there legs shut or protect them selves. They make the choice to have sex they should be ready for the cons. Dh and I have now been married for two years and are on baby #3 and thats because we planned the last two.
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