[jen23]

If you don't mind i am popping in from the August DDC. I see that you girls seem upset about people judging you because your young moms. I want to let you girls know that i totally understand how you feel. I am 23 years old and pregnant with my third. I was 16 when i got pregnant with my first. It was very hard for me because people looked down on me and they doubted me because of my age. It got to the point where i was embarrased to be pregnant. After i had my first i got pregnant 3 months later with my second. I will never forget the day when a lady asked me if both of my babies were by the same father. I was so mad and i wanted to punch her, but i guess in her mind she just assumed that because i was young that i must have slept around. Now that i am older one thing of advice that i want to give to you girls is, if you know in your heart that your a good mom then who really cares what anyone else thinks. I know thats easier said then done and people can be be very cruel. Just hang in there and know that in the end like i said it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I know that all of you girls will be the best moms you can be. If anyone would like to talk or you have any questions please feel free to PM me. My name is Jen. Good luck to all of you!!!!!

[Mommy_To_Jordon]

good post. I'm 23 as well, & my husband & I planned our first when I was 18. I never got any negative comments, but if I did/do now, I'll do my best to shrug it off. You & your child/ren know you are a good parent & that's all that matters.

[ShortiMom]

Aww, thanks ladies! I got pregnant with Reesi when I was 15 and had her when i was 16 but I was really tiny then (4' 10 and 96 lbs before i got pregnant) and probably looked like i was like 13 or 14. I remember one time when I was about 30 weeks a lady in line behind me said "Do you really think you're old enough and mature enough to be having a baby?" Before i could say anything the lady in line ahead of me turned around and said to her "Don't you think you're old enough and mature enough to treat other people with more respect than that??" I could've kissed that lady!!

After I had Reesi people were usually surprised to find out I'm her mom, not her babysitter, but they mostly just said things like what a cute little girl Reesi is. (They're right too! ) Now I'm expecting #2 and definitely showing, and people are like "OMG you're having another one, and at your age??" I'm 18 and graduated from high school, and I'm engaged with a job and a place of my own. But I look like I'm about 16, and so I'm getting those looks all over again. This time I'm used to it tho.

The funny thing is how when you're pregnant people act like you're awful, but after you have your baby they're like "aww, isn't she cute?" I just don't get it. But I've learned to try to ignore them for now and after this one comes they'll all be like "aww, your kids are so cute."

[expressochick]

what about kindergarden, or preschool teachers? ive been woundering about how they treat young mothers...

[jen23]

To answer your question expressochick, i haven't had any problems. If you have any problems with the teachers and how they treat you, just tell them to GROW UP!!!!!!!!

[AshleyNbabe]

What about your doctors... I feel like they don't and won't have any compassion towards me. I don't deal with pain very well at all and I absolutely hate needles but it seems like they are rougher with me than they would be with others. Like when I had my first ultrasound and I was kinda squirmy and had these painful looks on my face my doctor told me " well you did get yourself pregnant... how do you think that happened". It just seems like they are always rude to me and now I am afraid when I go into labor they'll be just as rough and rude to me as before... almost like they have to punish me for the mistakes I have made. I know I am young and I have messed up and I am trying to do the best I can but why can't they realize it.. and just get over the fact I am having a baby just like any older married woman and I will be just as good as mom as they are!

What about your doctors... I feel like they don't and won't have any compassion towards me. I don't deal with pain very well at all and I absolutely hate needles but it seems like they are rougher with me than they would be with others. Like when I had my first ultrasound and I was kinda squirmy and had these painful looks on my face my doctor told me " well you did get yourself pregnant... how do you think that happened". It just seems like they are always rude to me and now I am afraid when I go into labor they'll be just as rough and rude to me as before... almost like they have to punish me for the mistakes I have made. I know I am young and I have messed up and I am trying to do the best I can but why can't they realize it.. and just get over the fact I am having a baby just like any older married woman and I will be just as good as mom as they are![/b]

I would be so mad if my doctor did that! My regular doctor is wonderful. However there is one doctor at my OB's practice who is a ******. She always looks down on me and my fiance. Ugh, I'm glad I've only gotten her a few times this pregnancy.

[jen23]

Thats a messed up docotor! I don't care what age you are when you get pregnant, we all deserve RESPECT!

[Isaeph]

Hehe...August DDB here too. I was 20 when I got pg with my son and I still got all the comments and looks too (but when I got a job at 18 people all thought I was there waiting for my mom or dad, so I know they all think I'm younger than I am). I don't even like telling people I'm pregnant this time (23). I still get the looks and stuff. It just sucks. People can be so rude. My husband even gets the looks and stuff, and he's nearly 30 (ok, he's almost 29)! He took our son to the ped last summer for a check up and he had one of the other doctors, not our normal one and said that she treated him like a kid and a moron. He was really mad when he got home. I agree with what everyone else said, you know you're a good Mommy (or will be!) and thats all that matters.