[*~Lissa~*]

Notice it says SOME older mom's think being a young mom is the most evil thing ever!! I called a lady to begin going to a playgroup that's in the area with Freja. And she was asking me questions, how old freja was, I was and such. I told her I was 20 and we're currently trying to get pregnant with number 2 and she told me 'I'm sorry but this group is for OLDER mature mom's with more experience' OK! STOP BACK UP for ONE BLOODY SECOND!! Just because a mom is older DOES NOT make her more mature!! I know MANY older mom's that live around here that are the most IMMATURE people EVER! More so then my 18 year old brother. What makes her this she has the right to say this? I just don't understand. Is it because we live int he bible belt (kinda) or does this happen everywhere?

That is just ignorance and age discrimination. Unfortunately, it seems to happen everywhere.

Age (old or young) is not an indicator of parental ability....what a friggin moron. I would have told that lady a few choice words about being a judgy wudgy.

I do NOT think this happens everywhere and I personally wouldn't want o belong to a play group where there is a woman wiht that kind of attitude. I had my first at 20 and second at 21 and NEVER did anyone give me any grief about being a young mom. Young moms are the ones with all the energy (Oha what I would give to be young again, LOL) Frankly I would have told her where to go.......

[mamaB]

Maybe a dumb question but... where exactly is the Bible Belt? (Honestly, I don't know.)

[rollopodio]

i have never had anyone actually say anything to me but i still get alot of stares from older moms etc. it is so aggervating. i think we should be getting credit because we made a mistake and we stepped up to the plate. instead they look down on us.

A "bible belt" is an area overpopulated with churches and overzealous religious people.

Melissa - wow! How incredibly rude! I would have told her that age isn't a factor in maturity - obviously. Some people are just so incredibly narrow minded, how ridiculous. You're better off without that playgroup!

[*Lea*]

What a be-littling woman.. We get that alot here, but then we also have "young mums" centers..

Its women like her her that stereotype young parents too be the worse, but hello??? How on earth is her attitiude helping in that sense?

It's very hipercritical.. They moan that we don't have the ability to bring our children up well then turn us away when we try to gain more knowledge and support..

Maybe it was a good thing that she had that re-action.. It would of been alot worse if you had signed up and then became faced with a bunch of stuck up something or others

Huh this makes me mad too

I live in the start of the Bible Belt (ohio) and for those of you that asked the Bible belt is basicly the midwestern states where we have GIANT billboards that simple say stuff like JESUS for no rhyme or reason...

Anyway, this woman is a witch... If you lived here I'ld start a playgroup with you Melissa, I'm 23 and preg with my first and I still feel like some people seem to think I am "too young" my drs office gives me that impression and some of my friends have shut us out because DH and I CHOOSE to become parents at this age instead of still parting every night with them...

Whatever... when they are 60 and still raising kids while DH and I are enjoying cruises and beaches We will be the ones smiling...

Of course the biggest "you're too young" complainer is my MIL and DH's family they think if you have a child before 30 it is a crime...
And believe me it has nothing to do with DH and I's maturity level or living situation they base there complants completely on our age (DH is 25 btw soon to be 26 and me soon to be 24) and act like we are throwing our lives away because we are going to raise our daughter...

People are dumb this is why I hermit so much of the time....

[MomOfXavierAndGabby]

I get a lot of comments here (chicago) about having a baby at 19.....But i can fire off things like - my SO own a house in a nice suburb and two cars, and that is more than I can say for a lot of moms who are 30+- so whats the big deal- I am 22 with a 2 1/2 year old but i take care of him and he gets what ever he wants- would it be better for me to be 30-something, but struggle to feed him? Don't pay attention to what other people say- Funny we are doing everything at 18, 19, 20, 21, 22- that they didn't feel ready for untill 30+- as for trying for the second one - who the H-E double hockey sticks is she to judge? Appearantly you are doing a good job with Ferja, why shouldn't you have another one- should you wait until you are thirty so you are like her? You still wouldn't be acceptable to her because you were a young mom at one point or another.

Keep on Keepin on and don't listen to the garbage!

YOUNG MOMS ARE THE BEST!!!!!!!!!
-Heather

[tamw402004]

Originally posted by Alisteal@Nov 2 2004, 01:08 PM
Notice it says SOME older mom's think being a young mom is the most evil thing ever!! I called a lady to begin going to a playgroup that's in the area with Freja. And she was asking me questions, how old freja was, I was and such. I told her I was 20 and we're currently trying to get pregnant with number 2 and she told me 'I'm sorry but this group is for OLDER mature mom's with more experience' OK! STOP BACK UP for ONE BLOODY SECOND!! Just because a mom is older DOES NOT make her more mature!! I know MANY older mom's that live around here that are the most IMMATURE people EVER! More so then my 18 year old brother. What makes her this she has the right to say this? I just don't understand. Is it because we live int he bible belt (kinda) or does this happen everywhere?
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That is terrible that she said that to you...I became a Mom at 15{ that was when I was pregnant with my daughter, Regina .She is almost 25.}....I know I have always been a GREAT MOM every since. I am now 41 and Pregnant with my 4th child. My hubbys first!
Believe me there are probably some people that think negitive things about me & my hubby having a baby at our ages too. So, If I were you I would put it off as some people are just DUMB! I live my life for Me!
You are probably a much better Mom then some women that are older then you. To me age really doesn`t matter....Mothering comes from your heart. You have to give your ALL with everything.. for your children. I have older kids that are wonderful young people. And I know it has alot to do with the type of MOM I have always been!

[beccasmom]

I had my first when i was 21 and now im 23 and expecting #2, but i know what you mean ...there are tons of older women with kids who look at me like im the scum of the earth and they own me.
What also bugs me is the older women, like grandparents and stuff who look at you as if you are wrong having kids this young, even though back in those days most women had kids by 20/21.
Like my grandma doesnt think i should have kids at my age and so close together even though she had my uncle at 20 and my other uncle 15months later. And my mom had me when she was 21 and my sister at 23. We turned out ok.

[mamaB]

Honestly. I think that lady was jealous. Jealous that she didn't have her kid earlier and that you did. I know alot of bitter women my age (30) who are struggling to find a DH fast so they can satisfy the biological clock... who knows, maybe this rude woman was one of those people, looking at you so young and seeing what she did not have. Either way, ugh!

[jennylyn85]

Here's my two cents. I'm 19, 20 in march. I have a 17 month old. I got pregnant at 17. Sometimes, since my husband works late, I got eat with my mum, or she takes me shopping. To get to the point. I will be clearly taking care of my DD, and calling my self momma to her. Yet people still ask my mum how old she is. My mum answers and says she's not mine. So, they look at me and say she's to young, yet they continue to ask my mum question, like is she the grandmaw. "You look way to young to be her Mawmaw. How old were you when your daughter was born and how old was she when your granddaughter born. I get so mad, and my mum does to. It honestly really hurts my feelings to when people say that. Even worse I look younger than 19. But people should know that it's rude and insensitive to make age comments. So noisey people out there stick your noses up elsewhere.

[OnceAgain]

I am a bit confused.

playgroup[/b]

Ok. I know what a playgroup is.

for OLDER mature mom's[/b]

Let me think about this.

So this is a playgroup - for older mature moms?

A playgroup for older mature moms?

Isn't a playgroup for children?

Wow. How mature can a mom be if she is the focus of a playgroup? I did not know the idea of a playgroup was to have social time for older mature moms. That is what she is trying to make it obviously.

You are better off not having anything to do with people like that. I would not like to be part of anything with mothers with attitudes like that even if I was 40, would you?

There are other moms and children who would like a real play group for their children with many kinds of moms who can get to know each other. Good riddance to that one. Sad that she will probably teach her child prejudice.

[OnceAgain]

sorry. double post.

[dingledine]

That lady is a meanie and she sucks! Okay, well that wasn't mature of me, but who cares. Be glad you found out now that there is a nasty lady in the playgroup. I bet she goes and tells some of the other moms that a young mom called and was turned away. I bet that lots of the other ladies think she is schmuck, for this and possibly other things. She can blow it out her nose!

[Miguelsmommy]

Try to go to story time at your libbary to find other young moms. Or post flyers on an ad for young momies with kids. From my experiance that happens to most young moms. Happend to me all the time