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Ever since i moved to my mans house with his parents there has been constant drama about how i have to raise my baby and do their hispanic ways with her which i have a problem with she is going to know both the american and the hispanic ways and they arent going to sit there and tell me how to raise her.. anyways yesterday i posted about my grandma maybe having a stroke which they did end up finding out she had a mild one and still is numb on one side of her body it really hit me hard i have been upset not being able to eat or anything well when i got to his house his older sister had the nerve to sit there getting in my business telling me that i need to get a job as soon as i have my baby and get back to school ( she has no kids) im not the person to just throw my child to everyone else to take care of my plan from the first day i foundout i was pregnant was to stay home with her at least till she was 6 months to a year old.. my man has no problem with it
his sister knowing that i dont have a car and am living 40 mins away from my mom grandma and school told me i need to be out on the streets at night taking the bus like she did.. well that will never happen my family wouldnt let it happen since i would be on streets that are known to have drive bys.. i have learned to keep the drama to myself and not say anything to my man because he is onesided he never gives me support or tells me not to let his family get to me he always sticks up for them im not good with keeping things in right now and i need alot of suppirt right now so i told him and he went off on me telling me she wasnt making you do nothing she is just worried about us and how we are going to make it
okay well its not her place thats our business on how we are going to make it..!!
this has been going on for along time and has gotten to the point where i am now feeling distant with him i get so angry out of no where but i love him with all my heart i know if we werent living there he would be all caring and loving like he was before his family started to control him all this stress being due anyday is so not good i really feel like going off
i told him that he is pushing me away and he told me that im doing that myself
Well I'd tell him that you guys are now family #1 (you, baby, and your "man"). His family and your family comes AFTER your own family. And the reason I put quotation marks around "man" is because ... I'm being blunt here... he is NOT a man. A MAN thinks for his own family and doesn't let his other family members tell HIM (or YOU) what to do as if either is not old enough to take care of their self or their family.
If he doesn't cut his umbilical cord and become a MAN for you and your child.. I would leave. Its obvious you will never get the respect you need in that house and as a mother .. you should also be the head of the household for your own family along with your "man", not your grandma, his sister or his mom or ANYONE except you two.
Either talk to him and fix it or get out because if you talk to them and they do nothing, it'll only get worse.
Girl, I have been in your shoes! Its really hard to take a young guy, in his home situation and get him to act like a man, when his mommy is there trying to mommy him. If youre having this problem already, you need to find a way to get out. Or, your man needs to stand up to his parents and family. I am sorry you are going thru this, PM me anytime, Ive been there.
its sad he is 23 and believes that him saying anything to his family is disrespectful he says he was raised not do such a thing..
thats why he stays quite.. so when our child is born he is gonna just sit back and not saying anything about how they take over our kid!? its a bunch of crap