Q for those who have suffered a m/c

alicenwonderland · #1 August 29th, 2008, 05:14 AM

How long did it take for you body to get back to normal? (i was amazed i could have symtoms so early)

All the obvious symptoms like bleeding seem to be easing up. But the breast tenderness, mood swings, and fluid overload are still here. My ankles are all puffy. I didn't think to ask my doctor that question. I know the mood swings probably will stick around just because i can't stop thinking about the little "crumb".

ANGWife · #2 August 29th, 2008, 05:54 PM

My boobs took the longest to get back to normal. Other than that, it was only like 2 weeks until I felt "normal" again. My mood swings never went away because I was so upset about the loss. I know they tell you not to obsess over TTC after a m/c but I felt I wouldn't fully recover emotionally until I was pregnant again.

What you're feeling is all too familiar.

Even as a "little crumb," you miss them so dang much.

alicenwonderland · #3 August 29th, 2008, 09:43 PM

I have to admit, I didn't understand how much a few days can affect a person. That is, till i lived through it of course. Not only is it emotionally hard to get past, but your body doesn't let you move on. I feel stuck in this weird limbo land. Part of me wants to get pregnant again right away to attempt to fill the void. Most of me however is terrified to relive the past week. I'll most likely be waiting another 10 months. I think the most annoying part is pregnant jokes by people that have no idea. At work "God, i'm so tired." "What are you pregnant? HAHAHA" Ugh it makes me just bristel and almost burst into tears. And thanks Morgan.

Sticky

to you!

ANGWife · #4 August 30th, 2008, 07:45 AM

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I have to admit, I didn't understand how much a few days can affect a person. That is, till i lived through it of course. Not only is it emotionally hard to get past, but your body doesn't let you move on. I feel stuck in this weird limbo land. Part of me wants to get pregnant again right away to attempt to fill the void. Most of me however is terrified to relive the past week. I'll most likely be waiting another 10 months. I think the most annoying part is pregnant jokes by people that have no idea. At work "God, i'm so tired." "What are you pregnant? HAHAHA" Ugh it makes me just bristel and almost burst into tears. And thanks Morgan.

Sticky

to you![/b]

I got the jokes as well. My SIL was pregnant when I was before. But we weren't telling anyone just yet. So after I lost the baby, I just never mentioned it at all. And my relatives would say "You better catch up, Morgan. You're brother is gonna have 3 kids before you!" or "so why are you waiting so long?" Those were the times I had to leave on DH the hardest.

alicenwonderland · #5 August 30th, 2008, 11:52 AM

While I wait I might just have to live vicariously through you. I keep peaking in on the May DDC. We would have had the same due date May 4th. I'm so excited you got pregnant again so soon.

ANGWife · #6 August 31st, 2008, 04:12 AM

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While I wait I might just have to live vicariously through you. I keep peaking in on the May DDC. We would have had the same due date May 4th. I'm so excited you got pregnant again so soon.[/b]

I feel so loved!

**Jenn** · #7 September 1st, 2008, 08:13 PM

I never had symptoms when I was pregnant the first time, that I recognized as pregnancy symptoms anyway. Looking back I could see the mood swings and nausea were in fact from my pregnancy. I can't really pin point when the nausea went away because the day I miscarried I also had a horrible flu that lasted almost a week so when the flu was gone so was my nausea. The mood swings and depression lasted almost a year. I think that was mostly due to the fact that we hadn't told anyone, I had no one to talk to about it, I didn't grieve like I should have, the week after my miscarriage I had to go to my sil's baby shower, and then my niece was born a month later. I couldn't even hold her til she was almost a year old.

I also got insensitive comments, even after we told some people. My natural miscarriage wasn't "complete" so I ended up needing a d&c a few months later and that's how mil found out. Not long after that she was going on and on about my niece and showing us the tons of baby clothes she got for her. When dh told her to give it a rest she said, "Well, Caity's here now, lets just focus on that."

I think the one of the worst things about a miscarriage, especially when it's your first pregnancy, is that it takes away your ability to completely enjoy and be excited for every subsequent pregnancy. The naivety is gone because you've lived through such a horrible thing. The good news is that the chances of another miscarriage happening is very slim. I hope you feel better soon.

Mjp121212 · #8 September 5th, 2008, 05:03 PM

This was my first normal month....my loss was in March. March 14-16th to be exact. I started spotting ont he 14th, and bled heavy from the 15-16th, and was done bythe 17th. My boobies stayed sore for about amonth, and then the mood swings were really bad for a while. But I never really put that together til just now. But really this is my first normal month. It was a very early loss too...I had just gotten my bfp a few days before

so sorry

Alison81 · #9 September 6th, 2008, 09:17 AM

My body has a tendecy to bounce right back after a loss. The one that wreaked the most havoc though was my earliest. I lost the baby at 26dpo, but it really messed with my cycles, they were off for awhile. The later losses (9 weeks and 14 weeks), I had some leaky boobs and the nausea continued for a day or two, but physically I recovered pretty quickly. I know my cycles are always off for awhile after. With my latest loss at 14 weeks, I'd say it wasn't until 6 months later that my body and my cycles felt normal again.