[HopeWishWait]

So this is going to be kind of long story so bear with me if you wish..I'm just venting. My parents split up when I was 12, my mom and I moved to a different town and my father basically became non-existent. I got calls maybe once every month or two that last about 10 minutes. I see him maybe every three months...and it's been that way since the divorce. Even before that I was my mother's child, he was too busy with work and drinking to be bothered having a hand in raising me.

So I went to his house yesterday (about 2 hour drive from here) just to chat and what not. We got on the subject of my wedding and I asked whether or not he wanted to be involved (this included financially of course but mainly I was asking about walking me down the aisle and what not). He informed me that he would not. He's not even coming. Want to know why? "I don't even know Nic, you have no right to marry him" EXCUSE ME?! I think I'm a grown woman who can decide that for herself, not that he's been involved enough in my life to know that or know anything about Nic and I anyway.

And the nail in the coffin was when he referred to my child as......the not nice term for someone without a father. So I told him he had nothing to worry about, I could find someone else to walk me down the aisle and he was certainly never seeing his "grandchild". I think I'm finally done with him...he has his new wife and stepdaughter (who's due a month before me) and I hope he enjoys them, because he sure as heck isn't seeing me anymore. (they don't have an angry enough face on here for how angry I am)

[Alison81]

OMG, I would be SO incredibly hurt by that comment! What right does he have to tell you that when he didn't even have the motivation to be there for you as a dad!? I would have said, at least my child will have a dad who loves him/her and is THERE for him/her!

I don't have a good relationship with my dad either. He's done some things to me that are unforgiveable, and sometimes it's hard for me to be in the same room as him without boiling in anger. When I get married, I plan on having my brother walk me down the aisle.

Wow Caitlyn I'm sorry.. There are enough people in the world who try to bring you down-- if your father is one of them, I'd say let him live his happy life, while you go on creating yours...

[Kristen_at_the_lake]

I'm so sorry that you had to deal with him being such a jerk. I agree with you completely about not having him involved anymore.

*hugs*

[Mars]

That's awful and he's such a $@#%#$%$ for saying those things to you. I don't swear and I feel like swearing at him!

I'm really sorry you had to go through that. (((HUGS)))

Oh sweetie I am so sorry thats terrible!! I wouldnt talk to him either, like you said your a BIG GIRL!! Screw him!!!

[HopeWishWait]

Thanks girls Now that I've calmed down a little bit I feel more relieved than anything. I know now for sure that he's done with me, and I'm pretty peaceful with that. He wasn't a good father to me ever and I don't need that influence around my child.....or around me anymore, for that matter.

You ladies are wonderful.

[*JenJen*]

I'm sorry he is such an asscactus!

[**Jenn**]

What an a-hole! He sounds exactly like my Grandfather.

[soImarriedAnerd]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. {{{{HUGGLES}}}

[shellito1012]

that is really a sorry attitude....you would have thought he would be grateful that you wanted him to walk you down the aisle! It is hard when father's don't give the proper attention to children...I don't think they realize the very long lasting affects it can have. So sorry you had to deal with that!