I could just cry

Since I took off work on Friday, I've felt a bit awkward about it. What if I go 2 weeks overdue? I would be out of work for 3 weeks before Reid is even here, but I can't even fathom working while I am overdue, much less this week. I thought I made it plenty clear that I was done on Friday and everyone seemed cool with that.

My boss texted me on Sunday night asking, "baby status?" I wrote back, "not yet" and the emailed him an update. He simply responded that most first babies are late, that his first son was 2 weeks late. Okay. Great.

He just texted me again asking, "baby status?" and I wrote back again, "not yet, just waiting" and he wrote back, "You should sell some pages to take your mind off of it!"

***.

Please just leave me alone! This week and next week are our two busiest, having to make tons of sales calls, go out on appointments, and deal with crazy clients. I can't tell if he is joking or not, but I know he wants me at work. I know that he relies on me to sell our magazine (advertising) but I left my co-worker who should be MORE THAN CAPABLE (he's the one whos 40 years old with a charming personality and 2 friggin degrees) with everything that he needs to sell pages in my absense.

I just wrote my boss back- "I left (coworkers name) with all of the tools that he needs to sell this issue. You know I'm here for you guys, but this baby could be here any time. My docs don't think I will go more than a few days overdue, if at all."

Why am I even having to have this conversation again? It's like he enjoys nagging me! I'm on friggin maternity leave because I NEED A BREAK FROM WORK. I have that right! My mom is telling me to get a "note" from my doctor saying that she recommends taking off work, an idea that I kind of rolled my eyes at, but it actually sounds like an okay idea.

I feel so whiney, but I just want to be left alone- that is why I took this week off...to be alone and to have a few flippin days to myself before I become a mother. This is the last time in a long while that I can get some sleep, keep the house clean, and spend one on one time with DH.

If Reid comes this weekend, I will have only taken 4 days off of work. 4 DAYS! I don't think that's too much to ask

[A*LOT*OF*HOPE]

Oh Breanna, I am so sorry your boss is being such a butt!! You do deserve some time to yourself, and he shouldn't be bugging you!! Next time he texts you just say "I will call you when he has arrived"!! I hope he starts to leave you alone!!

[**Jenn**]

Poo on your boss! You deserve some time off before Reid makes his grand entrance into this world. I worked up until the day I went into labor with Liam and those last few weeks were hell! You need this time to rest and get things in order. I agree that you should tell him you'll text when the baby comes. There's nothing more annoying to a very pregnant woman than everyone asking is it time yet? Like phone calls won't be made when the baby is born.

[LaLaRose3]

Ah, Bre. *HUGS*

I am sorry he is being a butt-face. But think of it this way- he wouldn't be bugging you if you weren't the BEST darn worker they have there!

[mandamarie8907]

thats totally un-fair ! i agree.
you deffinetly need some alone time and time with your DH before reid decides to make his appearance to the world.
you sound like you work your but off at work .. don't worry about your boss. if he texts you again i would just say i'll let you know when i have him.. and that should be good enough. your pregnant.. what more does he want ?!

[*Mrs.J.2011*]

When I go on vacation.. I turn my phone off and/or ignore ALL work related correspondence.. Is that something you could do? Its not fair to you to have them bug you about work. If your boss has kids.. he should know that! This is your time off to be with your hubby before the little man makes his entry, enjoy it!

[*kyle*]

He can tell you all he wants about how his first baby was overdue. The fact remains that he did not carry or give birth to his first baby!! Men sometimes forget that men and women enter parenthood in vastly different ways. I am sure that HE worked up until the DAY his first baby was born.... well DUH. You're in a very different position and he needs to be sensitive to that. I wonder if he had like, a disease that caused him to get heartburn and hemorhoids and his stomach to bloat up 3 times its normal size, then get god-awful cramps and pass a giant blockage through his anus... would HE be coming to work?

I ditto those who said to just respond "I'll let you know when the baby has arrived." Work is for work time. You're on vacation leave and you should be respected for that, whether you're giving birth, flying to Hawaii or staring at a wall.

[Frozendesire]

Oh my!!! You need some ME time before baby comes! That's so important plus you don't even know when he's coming. Yes SOME moms go over due... but you never ever know when baby decides to come. I hope he starts leaving you alone, you don't need that added stress!!

I went on mat leave Dec 10 and Curtis was due Jan 13. I believe I had a week vacay. But either way I took time to just be with my husband and clean and just be LAZY! Curtis didn't come till Jan 25 anyways hehe. I wouldn't have done it a different way. Like you it was during a busy time for us (I worked in retail) and I didn't want to be on my feet for that many hours a day.

You know what's best for your body and your baby. So poo on him I say!!!!

I'm so sorry Bre!! I agree, can you turn your phone off or just completely ignore him? If not, I'd say something like "having contractions, waiting to see what's going on".. NOT a lie. honey.

The thing is, I've told him TWICE, "I'll let you know when it's time!" I even told him in person on Friday that his cell was on my mom's list of "to-call" when I was actually in the hospital.

I wish I could turn my phone off, but I use it for both work and personal. I need it on for my family/DH to contact me.

It's just such a PITA working for such a small company. Part of me looks at my boss as a dad, I really do like him and feel close with him, but other times he drives me up a wall. He is the owner of our entire company and I know how important our business is to him- he's the owner, of course it is! It's very important to me as well, but I'm not him, and I am 4 days away from my due date with my first child. I can't apologize for wanting to take some time off, and it most certainly says nothing about how I am as a worker overall. I'm just paranoid that he's doing to think that I lost my "drive" and that I don't care about work anymore. I guess that's the root of my stress. How do i convey to him that I want this time to be ALONE and to RELAX without flat out saying that this time is more important to me than working? You would think that it would be something that could go un-said, but not if it's going to flippin text message me every single day!

He would be just happy as a clam if I was still at work, that would please him to no end. He would love nothing more than for me to work right up until the time that my water breaks or that my contractions are so bad that I can't even drive myself home. That's not fair, and I can't put myself under that kind of pressure.

How do i convey to him that I want this time to be ALONE and to RELAX without flat out saying that this time is more important to me than working?[/b]

"Will and I are anxiously awaiting the arrival of Reid, and as soon I am able, I look forward to returning to work."

Maybe he worries you WON'T come back. Does he know that you have looked into child care and that you will not be a SAHM?

Also, maybe you could personally call him and ask him about sales and how the "goal"/end of month/whatever was/is a few times to stay connected?

[ShannonMVT]

Ugh, I'm sorry Breanna. It sounds like your boss is really being selfish and only thinking of the company and not about YOU. I'm not sure how I'd deal with that, I'm sure it is more tricky when you work for a small company.

Do you have to reply to his texts? Maybe just ignore them if sends any more. He already knows that you are taking this time off, and that's what it should be, time OFF.

[soImarriedAnerd]

ignore his texts completely ---that will show how busy you really are. (busy sleeping/cleaning/shopping/living...)

[Kiwi]

Wow. You, as a women, have a right to take a certain amount of time off work to give birth and recover. He shouldn't be pressuring you into working when you are about to give birth...

...I hope he was joking when he made that comment...

[ANGWife]

*** maybe if he had a baby in his uterus he would understand how crappy you can feel?! How insensitive


Screw him, take the time you need, mama! Like you said, a good replacement is working for you so there should be no worries. Enjoy relaxinge very last bit you can. And cuddle with hubby alot.

[Mars]

Your boss is a butthead!! And I think your response about leaving your coworker with the tools was very appropriate. Hopefully he gets the message and leaves you alone! I've heard it's frustrating the last few weeks so I think you have a right to be "miserable" as you put it (which of course I don't think you are). If he texts you again with any nonsense, block the number!!

Bre if I was you... if he texts/emails again saying "Baby status?" - I would reply sayingnothing yet but I'll let you know when. And then if he does it again, take hours to respond (if at all!! I wouldn't!!), perhaps he'll get the hint.

Sounds like you'll have to be forward and ask him not to contact you unless it's an emergency. You could tell a small white lie and say Will has your mobile incase YOU need to contact WILL (from your house phone), when you go into labour. And him texting all the time is scaring Will cos he thinks it's you?

[Resi]

I hope that he doesn't continue to send you a text every day until Reid is born. I can understand not ignoring the texts because that would make him think you might not care as much about your job. It's a hard place to be in. I understand how it is working for a small business with only a few employees. My boss has asked me several times when I'm coming back and I gave him a letter telling him my plans weeks ago! It's like they don't want to listen. I hope that he lets you rest and doesn't bug you every day after Reid comes too!

[thepinkleprechaun]

I would be super annoyed too! You deserve some time off to relax before the baby comes, jeez!

And it's not like you're the only pregnant woman who has ever stopped working before her due date, I wouldn't want to do that either, as a matter of fact this time I'm going to ask my doctor to put me on "bed rest" around Christmas so I'll have the holidays off lmao!

[freesiangel]

I'm sorry your boss is being such a pita. Hopefully this kind of behavior doesn't keep up after Reid is here! How stressful would that be?!