So I can't help but notice that some people hardly ever respond to my posts. It doesn't hurt my feelings, because I understand that we are busy ladies, and that not every post catches our eye. I know I miss responding to a lot of posts even though I do read them! Anyways, I can't help but wonder if it isn't related to the whole "infertility" thing. I know not many can completely understand where I am coming from on this board, but sometimes it seems as if people either just don't know what to say, or just don't care to read about infertility stuff. It adds to the whole "not feeling like you have a JM home" thing that can sometimes happen to us all on JM. And don’t get me wrong, I am not upset, nor am I blaming anyone. And you ladies that support me here rock which is why I am still posting today! I just don’t like the division that honestly I think may just be in my head! (the infertile TTC vs the fertile TTC thing. I dunno, it’s weird. Maybe another fertility challenged lady knows what I am trying to not so eloquently say?) I have been trying to respond more to posts without showing a bias. I remember how exciting it was to first TTC, and in a way my cycles are still exciting too! I’m doing the steps, I’m not a slacker! LOL



Anyhoo, I thought I would mention it here as a means of catharsis (LOL, Hilary Clinton reference). I am always paranoid my posts turn people off because I am in a small niche here. Hopefully they don't!

[*JenJen*]

I get you. I really do. You make perfect sense to me!

[ANGWife]

I don't understand alot of what you have been through, but I know you make me laugh

[♥Ashley♥]

I don't understand alot of what you have been through, but I know you make me laugh [/b]

Well, I can say I read every single one of your posts (and most of the time you have me laughing) but I feel bad responding because I dont want to make it seem like I know you, or have the slightest idea what your going through. And i dont wanna be generic and say "good luck with your dr. appointment" (which i always do hope all goes well though) or "It aint over till the witch shows" or any of those things because I never really got the chance to know you and I dont want to make it seem like I think i do! I would love to get the chance to know you though, and im sorry if you were hurt in any way by anyone (I know probably not me, because you dont even really know me I dont think but I just wanted to let you know my thoughts). I stalked JM for awhile before ever joining, and you (along with JenJen, Lash, ShannonMVT, and Garfieldbear) were always someone I rooted for to get pregnant. And I still do!!!!!!!!!!

JenJen I miss you!

Well, I can say I read every single one of your posts (and most of the time you have me laughing) but I feel bad responding because I dont want to make it seem like I know you, or have the slightest idea what your going through. And i dont wanna be generic and say "good luck with your dr. appointment" (which i always do hope all goes well though) or "It aint over till the witch shows" or any of those things because I never really got the chance to know you and I dont want to make it seem like I think i do! I would love to get the chance to know you though, and im sorry if you were hurt in any way by anyone (I know probably not me, because you dont even really know me I dont think but I just wanted to let you know my thoughts). I stalked JM for awhile before ever joining, and you (along with JenJen, Lash, ShannonMVT, and Garfieldbear) were always someone I rooted for to get pregnant. And I still do!!!!!!!!!!
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Don't ever feel like you can't say anything you like! I have had my phases, my "Desperation" stages, where some comments did bother me. But I have rarely felt that way about the women on this board, and I am thankfully out of that phase. Even then, I still appreciated any kind of support. I know what you mean though because I sometimes have a hard time sounding optimistic about all the little things associated with TTC when you first start. I was reading some of my old posts yesterday, and I was surprised at how I used to be. Not that I was bad or naive before, more that I had so much gitty optimism back then. Those were good feelings! I am optimistic now, just less gitty, LOL.

[*JenJen*]

I miss my baconator!! We need to hookup on chat one day soon.

[LaLaRose3]

I love you Michelle. I always read your posts. Sometimes I do not know what to say and I merely offer huggles. But sometimes, hugs don't seem like enough anymore, and I just don't know how to make you feel better. It honestly just breaks my heart because I know that you are hurting/frustrated/whatever and I cannot make it better... when all i want to do is make it all better! So you see- i have been rooting for you more so than I rooted for myself...

Nope. I still get you. Got you. Had you. Not in the same way as someone who has done IUI, but I get you as much as possible.. Much love!

[ShannonMVT]

I know what you mean. I do think sometimes people don't know what to say. But I love you and your sense of humor! I also think the pregnant ladies sometimes worry about hurting someone because they are pregnant and someone else who is so deserving is not, does that make sense? Or just saying the wrong thing or sounding trite.

I've been a slacker lately about responding on the boards (although I read more than I respond), because of the hurricane and now my computer has been having issues.

But I love all my bacon bgitches!

[Frozendesire]

Ya know what, I read most if not all your threads. I really love your humor, your attitude, and really look up to you. But I don't want to pretend I know you or even know what you are going through, cause I don't! I know glimpses of you. Sometimes I feel weird responding to your threads when are looking for support or sharing not so good news. I think because I've never had issues getting pregnant, just staying pregnant. It's tough to describe what I mean! I hope this makes some sense!

[IamMom]

I LOVE YA MICHELLE ....I haven't been around all that long, but having you around makes me feel better, I was very sad when you went on your hiatus b/c you are freakin hilarious!!!!....but I feel you totally....I'm in a very weird boat - weirder than infertility I think....SECONDARY INFERTILITY....ahhh....it really feels weird to have a baby and try to relate to those with fertility issues (which I do have) b/c their probably like "you have a child.....how infertile can you be" ....but then also trying to relate to the fertile ladies who have kids or are preggo is hard b/c I'm actually not that fertile and am going through testing etc.....I feel like the only one on this board with this issue....and the secondary infertility board is not that active so I feel like in the world I'm one of the only ones with this issue....

my son was a beautiful miracle and I praise God every day for him but it doesn't change the fact that I have fertility issues....now I'm not making sense I think and going off on a tangent and I don't mean too ahhhhhhh. Basically I get you - I totally understand the different mantra of postings (and any uneasieness that I think we do certainly create in our heads and it actually doesn't exist) on this board with the preggos, the triers, the fertiles, non-fertiles, etc. But I also think that is what makes this board so wonderful...I hardly post anywhere else b/c you can't get diversity like this anywhere else! I LOVE all the ladies - honestly I can say that!

I'm here for you Michelle!

I LOVE YA MICHELLE ....I haven't been around all that long, but having you around makes me feel better, I was very sad when you went on your hiatus b/c you are freakin hilarious!!!!....but I feel you totally....I'm in a very weird boat - weirder than infertility I think....SECONDARY INFERTILITY....ahhh....it really feels weird to have a baby and try to relate to those with fertility issues (which I do have) b/c their probably like "you have a child.....how infertile can you be" ....but then also trying to relate to the fertile ladies who have kids or are preggo is hard b/c I'm actually not that fertile and am going through testing etc.....I feel like the only one on this board with this issue....and the secondary infertility board is not that active so I feel like in the world I'm one of the only ones with this issue....

my son was a beautiful miracle and I praise God every day for him but it doesn't change the fact that I have fertility issues....now I'm not making sense I think and going off on a tangent and I don't mean too ahhhhhhh. Basically I get you - I totally understand the different mantra of postings (and any uneasieness that I think we do certainly create in our heads and it actually doesn't exist) on this board with the preggos, the triers, the fertiles, non-fertiles, etc. But I also think that is what makes this board so wonderful...I hardly post anywhere else b/c you can't get diversity like this anywhere else! I LOVE all the ladies - honestly I can say that!

I'm here for you Michelle![/b]

Keri, I really feel for you! As far as I am concerned, secondary infertility sucks hard too and I do see myself as a secondary infertile in waiting. I do relate to your experiences and feelings too

Thanks for the love peeps.

[IamMom]

Thanks Michelle........no matter how many kids God chooses to bless those with fertility problems with...you still have to live with the fact that the body is not working as "normally" as it should..and that is tough.

i forget this section is here, but I think as the others have posted, sometimes it's difficult to try to post a reply that doesn't sound like we are just putting a hug icon. I hope that makes sense!!

I have bacon in my fridge? And homemade chicken & veg soup? Wanna share?

[IamMom]

BACON!! Look what the bacon did for Michelle - I'm rubbing it on myself tonight b.c O should be coming up in the next week or so....

Fi - I think even a hug icon is meaningful and helps those in the infertile world.....it at least shows you opened the thread, read the post, and care enough to give a hug!

[Mjp121212]

I don't respond to posts a lot of times because my crappy computer is slower than slow and my dial up makes it slower.


but uh....do you still feel this way? teehee....you not ms infertile now